Husband not wanting to spend birthday with me

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Hello my husband has just told me that he wants to spend time with his friends on his birthday and go drinking with them instead of seeing me we've been together 12 years and says because it falls on a Saturday he would like to go drinking it will be another 7 years before its on a Saturday again and that I get to hog him on every other year. It's our anniversary day after so we wil be having a meal then. He says I am selfish because I am angry and hurt.
Am I in the wrong ?

OP is there an issue with him not giving you both time together as a couple? He seens to spend alot of time away from you.

So he will be hungover for your anniversary meal? Great.

Same here. It's what we often do for special occasions.

Also, I don't like the comment that you are 'hogging' him, as if he's so special you shouldn't be greedy with him!

YABU. It’s his birthday, not yours!

Bit harsh. You must have a cold, cold heart.

Bit dramatic. You must have an equity card 😂😂

He is unfair and how dare he make out it is almost like an effort to spend his birthday with you and I would also be offended if he wanted to go on the piss with his pals. Make plans for your own birthday to go out with anyone but him. I think it is his choice of words though that make it seem worse as in 'the hogging'. Is he usually so clumsy with words and insensitive. Let him off or you will never hear the end of it though. Does he always put himself first in the relationship and do you have children. Plan something nice for yourself and don't let him take over your head space.

I think most posters are reading the OP and no further.

I think you've got more issues than just his birthday. He clearly does what he wants when he wants.

Do you have much time together/as a family?