I think my relationship is ending. And he doesn't know.
We've been together for 7 years, no DC. We're both very ambitious career-wise and have lots of plans to travel etc. We're late 30s.
He was ill as a result of the pandemic and left work in 2021. I supported him through this and after a significant amoint of time, he recovered. But he never went back to work.
He's been contributing out of savings but they have now ran out. He is applying for jobs but still focusing on a very specific career path with a limited location etc.
He's talking about hating work, not wanting to go back full time, wanting to do more volunteering.
I'm struggling. I'm still ambitious, and wanting to travel and experience things. I don't love work (who does?!) but I do it because it enables me to do the fun things and I get a sense of pride from doing a job well. I don't want to pick up all the bills so he can work part time or volunteer. He doesn't pull his weight around the house so it's not like things will be easier for me there. We have a mortgage.
But I know priorities change after being ill. The things he wants to do instead of full time work would help others (support his parents (who are elderly but in good health), volunteer at a local charity that means a lot to him etc). I've also been wondering whether it's a temporary change in attitude but I think I'm kidding myself on that one now.
Would you end it?