Strange things?

[supermadre78]

Hi,
What would you think if your DP of 7 years did or said these things (you don't live with them):

1. TMI but whilst having sex, said "can I cum inside you?" when you've been with them for years!! Asked him why he said that, said he thought he was being respectful!! He's never said that before!!

2. When you were both doing a Tripadvisor reveiw on his phone in a restaurant, I pressed connect to Facebook for it to work, 2 Facebook profiles came up. Same email address, slightly different profile names. Asked him, he said he had no idea why that had happened but didn't deny that 2 had come up. He claims never to use Facebook and not know how it works really. Instagram is not on his phone any more just on his kindle. He said he wasted too much time looking at it.

I don't live with him so he could be up to anything but I don't think he is but these things are niggling at me. I may be jumping to the wrong conclusions.

I’d think I wasn’t the only woman he was fucking.

Sorry, but any other explanation is just too far fetched.

That's what I think.

When I said that to him, he said why would he do that because he could just walk away. I said perhaps he just likes having several women at once which he thought was appalling but I have a gut feeling about this.

Asking before cumming inside isn't weird. Depending on contraception, I'd be pissed off if he didn't.

The 2 Facebook profiles is odd but not unexplainable. I have about 6. When I was in college I used to play Facebook games a lot and they all require you to add loads of friends to get materials and achieve goals so I had a bunch of different profiles to send requests to if I didn't want to wait for friends to respond.

He’s got two Facebook profiles and is lying about it.

I think that tells you everything you need to know.

It's just he's never asked in 7 years and nothing has changed in that time.

I pressed connect to Facebook for it to work, 2 Facebook profiles came up. Same email address, slightly different profile names.

Facebook doesn't let you have more than one account with the same email address. Maybe the emails are slightly different too?

A person can create a business etc page from the same email address (I suppose they could do this to avoid using a different email address for something resembling another account.) Does he have a business or creative project? For instance I have a page for my Youtube channel. smallbusiness.chron.com/can-two-facebook-accounts-one-email-address-26646.html What you can do with the page seems fairly limited.

His claiming not to have FB seems likely to be a lie though. Maybe he used to have one. I used to tell PoF blokes that I didn't have a WhatsApp (to be fair I didn't use it much really) to stop them using WhatsApp to ask for pics etc. Perhaps he doesn't want to add you/have you involved with his FB for some reason? Which would imply a lack of commitment/wanting you involved in his life to me personally.

Can you see much on the account and page? Or are they set to private?

I suppose someone could in theory accidentally make a page if they were thick or out of it at the time.

But I think someone would remember if they once had a FB.

The 2 Facebook profiles is odd but not unexplainable. I have about 6. When I was in college I used to play Facebook games a lot and they all require you to add loads of friends to get materials and achieve goals so I had a bunch of different profiles to send requests to if I didn't want to wait for friends to respond.

I have a few but you have to use a different email address each time to make a profile. I tried it earlier to double check. I think in the past it used to say 'there is already an account with that address.' Now it just keeps trying to refer you back to the pre-existing account.

OK thanks. So, I only saw the icloud bit on the email address so could possibly have been different but was on his phone and one was his normal facebook account say for example. Borisjohnson1234 and the other one was Boris J so his name. I asked him casually and he said he was worried maybe somebody had set up a fake one in his name so he didn't deny it and then he's just brushed over it since them.

I'm friends with him on his other facebook account but he doesn't have many people on there. Most are my family who have requested him or people he used to work with (I still work where he used to work so still work work with them).

You sure the first question wasn't just an attempt at dirty talk?

That was my first thought. He's maybe seen something in porn to do with this or he's been having dirty chats with someone else and using this to spice things up.

;-) I really don't think so!!

Meant didn't think it was his attempt at dirty talk. When I asked him he said he was trying to be respectful! It may be perfectly innocent but he's never asked in the whole time we've been together before.

I can't see anything on the second facebook profile. There is one with that name but there is no photo now.

he said he was worried maybe somebody had set up a fake one in his name so he didn't deny it and then he's just brushed over it since them.

That's the sort of thing they all say.

I'd be suspicious if someone did something like that in the bedroom with a long term partner, too. I mean, you know whether that's what your partner of 7 years is ok with or not, or whether it needs to be decided each time.

I think if it was an attempt at dirty talk (even a bad one) it'd usually be obvious.

This is what has made me suspicious. I have no idea why he would say that. I really don't think it was an attempt at talking dirty. I think maybe he forgot who he was with if that is possible or was thinking of someone else?

Actually, I really have no idea which is why I'm posting on here.

My husband has never once asked me if he can cum inside me. Either we have been trying for a baby, or definitely not trying and using contraception and therefore we both kind of know the answer already. If he asked me that out of the blue I would think it really odd, it's just not something we say like that in the heat of the moment. So I get what you mean OP and I would feel the same as you.

The whole 'oh I don't really know how Facebook works!' thing is just a lie I'm afraid. You can't accidentally set up a Facebook account without knowing about it and the fact that it came up on his phone suggests he uses both. I have a 'spare' account for Facebook for posting anonymously on groups I'm in that friends are also in, but if you open Facebook on my phone that account doesn't show because I don't really use it now. Also 'not knowing how it works' is just silly unless he is a child or 90 or just generally completely internet illiterate. Anyone with an account will know how it works, it's not like TikTok or something that hasn't been around long.

So he's lying about that and the sex thing is weird. Yes if he's cheating then he could just walk away, but lots of people don't do that for whatever reason.

I say trust your instincts. If something feels off, it is.

Exactly that. Absolutely no idea why he would ask me that. There's no reason to. We were on holiday not that that has anything to do with it.

Dodgy AF

I’d have my suspicions too. If he hasn’t asked that before or for a long time, I’d be questioning it. If he is sleeping with someone else, he isn’t using protection presumably.
I have two Fb accounts, they need different emails to set up.

Yeah I mean his reply doesn't make sense of you've been sleeping together for years. Think id agree that it seems like he forgot who he was sleeping with for a moment. Trust your instincts.

Is asking to cum in you a way of suggesting trying for a baby?