Strange things?

[supermadre78]

Hi,
What would you think if your DP of 7 years did or said these things (you don't live with them):

1. TMI but whilst having sex, said "can I cum inside you?" when you've been with them for years!! Asked him why he said that, said he thought he was being respectful!! He's never said that before!!

2. When you were both doing a Tripadvisor reveiw on his phone in a restaurant, I pressed connect to Facebook for it to work, 2 Facebook profiles came up. Same email address, slightly different profile names. Asked him, he said he had no idea why that had happened but didn't deny that 2 had come up. He claims never to use Facebook and not know how it works really. Instagram is not on his phone any more just on his kindle. He said he wasted too much time looking at it.

I don't live with him so he could be up to anything but I don't think he is but these things are niggling at me. I may be jumping to the wrong conclusions.

Definitely not!! We have 4 children between us and definitely not ;-)

Asked again and he said he had no recollection of creating a second facebook account and maybe did it years ago but it came up on his phone so sure it would have come up before.

Regarding the sex thing, he said, as we'd had an argument about a week before holiday where he'd behaved like an arse (which was resolved) he didn't know if we were going on holiday as friends or a couple so he thought he'd better ask!!! I thought we were a couple, at no point did I think we were no longer together, and why would you ask if you could cum inside somebody if you were having sex with a friend. None of this makes sense to me.

Can you get a friend to check the second profile? Sounds like he might have blocked you from seeing it?

Breeding kink? He sleeps with prostitutes or has a sugar daddy relationship or an Only Fans account and barebacking turns him on.

It will be something like that.

He didn't know if you were friends or a couple so he thought he'd better ask of he could ejaculate inside you?

Read that a couple of times and see if starts to make sense. It won't.

If you know his name on the other profile, I can look for you to see if I can see it. Pm me if you want.

Any other little flags that are coming together in your head now?

I do think both are peculiar. Could be innocent but I suspect your spider senses are tingling cos of other little flags playing away in the background.

When I read (1), I thought maybe he is attempting to spice things up a bit...

Then I read (2), and went back to (1) and thought maybe he's got someone on the side who who says that to. All sounds a bit dodgy but it could equally be perfectly innocent. Hard to say without more information.

As a previous poster said though, are there any other issues that spring to mind? Sometimes it takes an obvious red flag in order to go back and identify all the other little red flags....

Twice I’ve had partners do/say different to usual things in bed - both times they were seeing other folk. They had excuses and suggested I was weird, or stupid, for thinking that. One had no fb - I think it would have been too awkward if all his women wanted to be a friend! One said he would never have fb but hey Ho there he was when fb mined my emails and suggested contacts - cue other lies. The profile was fully locked down and I never saw it.
As a thought - there’s also restrictions you can apply to individual friends - Awfully a friend was friends with her fella, as was her sister friends with him - came to light at some point that the charmer had restricted the girlfriend’s access but forgot to do same for sister. There’s so many ways to restrict or block viewing, rightly so for privacy purposes I guess, but also helps dodgy behaviour.
I have 2 accounts as I set one up for a project thing - you definitely need separate email for them, and they won’t both come up as alternate log ins on a browser unless you use them regularly, although they will on the app if you’re logged out of both of them.

He asked because he has recently and repeatedly asked another person this question. Bad mistake.

Why don't you live with him when you have four dc?