First off links to prior threads if required.......
www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4556739-i-actually-told-him
www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4572088-gentle-reminders-to-be-brave?page=2&reply=117990083
www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4578456-feeling-nervous-as-tonight-is-the-night?page=2&reply=118215734
Just a quick update as I always find updates helpful as when people ask for advice it's nice to know how that pans out I suppose.
We started couples counselling last week after he had a session on his own 3 weeks ago.
It went well, in that I think we've started to open up on some areas that could be beneficial for our relationship. I'm still unsure whether it's possible to save the marriage regardless of what effort is put in though.
Dh's relationship wirh ds has dramatically improved which is good whatever the outcome.
Some time away from dh visiting family has made me realise that to do love dh still, but don't know if that's out of habit, fear of changing the familiar or love love.
I think the main thing that will determine next steps for me will be when we discuss the emotional/groping affair and how that came to happen and for him to really open up about it and what that means.
I at least feel like I am doing everything to see if we can salvage something and I guess the next few weeks will be very revealing.
Sucks that this is all during a drive in cost of living as I'm not sure I could financially survive alone now, what with all the increases.