I sent this to my ex who left me in pregnancy. The name Barry is randomly chosen. Does it sound fair and reasonable? I don’t want to not do right by my baby and as much as I can’t believe some of the things that went on and how he left me, I don’t want him to feel the door is shut on him for the sake of the baby. I’ve not heard from him since first trimester and I’m now towards end of my third. This was the last message I’d sent.
“Hi. Barry, we both feel aggrieved about things and we both made mistakes. I am truly sorry for my part in it all, I never meant to hurt you, I was struggling with your drinking and general behaviour. I could have done better though. I know I said sometimes I would report your drinking or when you were questioning me I asked you to leave and said i’d call police if you didn’t… that was wrong of me and I apologise. I was hormonal and worried and lashing out in panic, it’s no excuse but there’s a context. You also made mistakes and I’ve put them behind me for the sake of our baby. Is there a reason we can’t be pleasant to one another, if nothing else? I thought what we once shared was valued by us both and I did try my best to hold onto it but it was met with deaf ears in the end. Perhaps it never meant as much to you as to me. Regardless of the relationship, surely we can speak like adults about the baby? I wish you no ill will and want you to be part of our child’s life. I hope you’re ok.’