I walked away from a date

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I meet a guy from a dating app and we meet last minute to go for a drink (arranged 3 hours before).

When he arrived I didn’t fancy him or want to be in his company much longer. So when went to get another drink I just legged it’s to a mates.

obviously I’m going to try and big myself up and make excuses like he drank so much so quickly (double whiskey in sun 25 mins) or I didn’t realise he was a smoker (which I didn’t but I think the app went into free mode so that setting was turned of). He also was wearing sunglasses, but the sun wasn’t a concern and It’s part of having a conversation. He also stated he drinks a lot and normally gets drunk in the sun quicker…. For people in their early fourties’ I just found it off putting. His photos were maybe old as I didn’t fancy him in real life.

Anyway, tell me how bad I am and how I can stop it from happening again?

Yes I think you were rude. You should have told him you were leaving even if you made an excuse.

Don’t see the problem with the sunglasses tbh. It’s the middle of a heatwave.

Plus I wouldnt be worried about the drinking as if you drink spirits they go down very quickly!

Smoking yes fair enough. You could have even said, I didn’t realise you were a smoker, I think we’ll leave it there, have a quick chat and finish your drink and go.

Not ideal but I’m sure he’ll get over it. Not sure why other posters are giving you a hard time and getting all butthurt on his behalf.

How terrifying. Well done for obeying your instincts and getting out of there, especially if it was in his home? What sort of stuff did he do to make you think he would stop you going for the door? Body language as well as all the talk of restraints, etc?

You sound like you think you’re something pretty special. Personally I reckon you sound ignorant and rude. Doing a runner is a pretty cowardly thing to do but you sound pretty pleased with yourself so crack on. What goes around comes around , so hopefully you will be on the other end of someone’s shitty behaviour sometime soon.

Do you have dc op? Imagine how you’d feel if someone treated one of them the way you’ve treated this man.

Horrible thing to do

Life's far too short to be stuck with somebody for a few hours who you don't fancy. Good for you on bailing out. Next time, he should post only up to date photos.

Wow he was wearing sunglasses and it wasn't that bright. To top it all off other people weren't wearing sunglasses and you have sensitive eyes and you weren't wearing them either! He had one drink that last 25 whole minutes!

OP I totally get you don't want someone who drinks a lot and smokes but one drink lasting 25 minutes is not excessive. Also don't blame him for being a smoker when you should have checked your own settings.

I feel this post is a joke or the OP has special needs or something.