Finding female friendships harder as I get older

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I work in an all male environment which is great fun and I like that men are in general just 'black and white' with their thoughts and opinions.
Now, being middle aged I'm finding I just don't have the desire to have 'best buddy' girlfriends nor have the energy to deal with their dramas. I don't even really enjoy going out to dinner with them anymore.
Is this an age thing as when I was younger, there was nothing more important to me than having lots of female friends?!?!

Op some weeks I just have no energy. Our mam is 80 she v demanding and needy. I let few friends go as was always one driving or arranging. Guess it depends your life stages too.

@Tisyphone do you really think it's internalised misogyny, or just fed up with some female behaviour? I'm not being confrontational, just asking the question, as I don't really believe it is.

I have had female friends who feed off drama and gossip (ok when you're younger!)I give them a wide berth now, but it's not because I'm misogynistic, I just can't be bothered with that malarkey. I am older now, I want a different type of friendship, fun but easy, deeper too. I guess you're lucky (general) if you've not had drama from girl friends, but I think many people have.

To label all women like that is misogynistic. Just because you've come across some does not mean it's applicable to all.
It's such a lazy stereotype. Men are straightforward - women are hysterical, manipulative, difficult.

i do think so, assuming the OP hasn’t had very few friends, or chosen her friends from a very circumscribed group of women — it’s simply too huge a generalisation to reflect the experience of being friends with other women in general. The OP doesn’t say ‘I’m tired of the behaviour of some women’,she contrasts the ‘drama’ she sees as characteristic of her female friendships with the ‘black and white’ behaviour she characterises as male.

I don’t deny that there are female drama llamas just as there are terribly straightforward men, but I don’t think it’s in any way accurate to say women are generally drama prone. I’ve have lots of female and male friendships in my 49 years across several countries, and it’s not been my experience.

I love my "girlfriends", when though I'm 57.
They range from early 30s to about 62. They all know each other and we all flit between them all depending what's happening.
A few are very close friends that I've known for decades and they know me inside out, others have only been round for the last l8 years or so.
I like that I can chat and do " posh" lunches with some, walk hills and mountains in Scotland with others, go abroad and back pack with others and also have big night out ( or in at my place ) with all of them.
What's not to love about your " girl crowd'

(Please dont get hung up over the word 'girl' because none of us give two hoots about it.)