Biggest asshole alive

[Staytrue05]

I’m really upset
i posted a week ago about me and my boyfriend

we had a huge massive row and he broke up with me and blocked me from fb etc
always the same old stort
anyway we spoke and we discussed some issues and he said on the week I’ve got my kids he wants to start going out with his friends for a beer etc
and feels like why should I sit in and miss out because u got your kids every other week
he said why should I suffer for your mistake
ok abit harsh words but I accepted it
he said I’m a man I need to go out for beers with my friends
when you have your week without the kids I’ll take u out and won’t leave u at home alone and when u got the kids I’m gonna go out for some beers with my friend
i just accepted it and said ok
since that we’ve been really good
ive seen the old spark return from his side
and it’s been like the honeymoon period all over again
than today I’m still blocked on his fb he never unblocked me since we fighted
and I saw him uploading a story showing off topless
and yes I felt jealous because he has 5k friends loads girls on there
he use to be a player and he use to say I won’t post stories cos so many girls heart my story it’s not fair on u (his words what bitches they are)

anyway I confronted him about it today which went Pete tong
he went mental it’s my fb it’s not your business what I post and who ever is spying for u tell them to f off
he said I don’t care about girls hearting my story
and I said well I do care
and he said it’s my fb shut up
it turnt really nasty
he said I was getting good with u again but u ruin it
u don’t give me my space I don’t know if I want u

i said I accepted u want to go out with mates and things tho I’m not allowed to go out partying with girls cos I’m a women and it’s not the same in his eyes

and I said so I got to accept u showing off to and girls all hearting your story
no I have my limits too I’m not a walk over

he said shut up
i don’t care
its my fb I post what I want
he told me to apologize for ruining his night

i told him once I posted a story of me and my friend after not seeing her for years and u didn’t like it
and had to post stories after to get 1 up on me

he said u was showing off blah blah blah
and I said well least I said sorry and removed it
not like u telling me it’s not my business and being unreasonable

than he said he’s going out if I want to coke for a beer
and of course I do as he says
he was quiet the whole time we was out
as always there’s always girls he been with where ever we go but I turn a blind eye to it

than on the way home he said shall we get a pizza and I said no I want to keep my figure in good shape cos I’m really self conscious about putting weight on I use to suffer with being under weight and I’m still scared to go up but that’s another story

and he turns round and says yes it’s better because your gonna be single soon and u will need that small body for men to fuck u because that’s all there want u for is for your body cos no one will love u like I used to
there just use u

i felt so upset
than he turnt the music up and it was James blunt goodbye my lover
and he was singing to it loud joking grabbing my face saying goodbye asshole and laughing
but I felt so sad like your just taking the piss out of me
and he thinks he’s so clever trying to grab my face saying goodbye asshole
and I snapped I went mental and told him to F off and he said omg u can’t take a joke
i said all u do is make me feel shit about myself

he was saying I’m joking take a joke
omg can’t joke with u now
than was laughing saying u changed me
cos a few months ago I text a male friend I’ve known for years
asking for advice why my boyfriend treats me bad at times
and I deleted the conversation cos I was scared he see me moaning
and than 1 day he bumped into my friend and he told him I text him moaning
which basically caused me a huge headache
man’s my boyfriend can’t get over it
and brings it up every time we argue
says I cheated on him cos I text a friend who’s a man about him n hid the textes
and says I changed him

but it’s ok to have a women round your shop for a coffee who tried to kiss u
oh But that’s ok cos it was at the beginning
or the time I waited for him to come mine before I moved in with him and he stayed out till 8am fucked off his head while I sat up waiting

and once I had a line with his friends I know please don’t bash me for it
but I went in the toilet with his friends who we was with while he was walking my friend to the car to get her bags n get a taxi
yet I still get grilled for that to this day
how dare u go with 2 guys without me
u look a whore
i only known him 3 weeks
but again that’s wrong
but a women coming for a coffee to your shop cos u said ok on the phone after knowing me for 3 weeks n trying to snog u
thats ok

anyway
when we got home today he said I’m only joking
if u get down on your knees and show me how much u love me I’ll forgive
I didn’t want to
but went down for him to keep him happy

im thinking to pack my bags tomorrow and go while he’s at work

i just want reassurance I’m doing the right thing
or does he have points to be angry at me and I am to blame for his behavior

I couldn't real all of that but he is toxic and immature and you need to place a much higher value on yourself and your children. He called them mistake?! Next time try and find someone with a life outside social media and drinking, who has broader horizons. None of this is worth the angst.

Ewwwww. Block him and move on.

Oh my, this is one of the most toxic thread I’ve read in a while. Please, place a higher value yourself than this. Walk away from a man who calls your kids a mistake!!! Open your eyes and put them first!!!

If you don't have any respect for yourself, you could have some for your children. Have you thought about them or this piece of s*t is the most important thing in your life?
He is a loser that enjoys humiliating and treating you like his slave.
The faster you get rid of him , the better will be for you and you children.
and grow up!

I read it all but I should have stopped quarter way down as it didn't get any better.

Please leave him. Pack your bags and go. Do not go back. You are not to blame for how he acts towards you. Put yourself and your children first

Well, that was a very long post but some of the things I took from it:

• he thinks your children are a 'mistake'


• he speaks to you in an abusive manner


• he's a misogynist and thinks it's ok for men to go out with their mates, but not for women to go out with their friends


• he said "you will need that small body for men to fuck you, because that’s all they'll want you for is for your body" (nice!)


• he called you a whore


• he told you to get on your knees and give him a BJ "to show him you loved him"

OP, this man does not care for you or respect you. You do sound a bit immature yourself from what you've written. Please, please get some self respect. Get out of there and more importantly get your children out of there. They don't need this specimen as a role model in their lives. Once you're away from him, work on building up your own self esteem before you look for another relationship. Above all, think about your children and what you're exposing them to.

This is an extremely toxic relationship on both sides.

End it.
You're both teenagers (presumably) so this was unlikely to be your last relationship either way.

Sounds like an Andrew Tate wannabe. I would get rid of this idiot immediately.

I read it all and can’t believe you put up with him. Please, as PP says, get yourself and your children away from this useless thug. Permanently.

I hope you leave him. You sound nice and he's sounds horrible.

Grow up.

I really, truly, despair for your children if this is the example of adult behaviour you give them.

And also do better as a mother. You sound incredibly immature and lacking of good judgement. This is the type of man you see as a good pick? This fighting, uncouth environment is what your kids deserve? Dump him, do some massive work on yourself, focus on your kids and then only look at being in a relationship.

Exactly! Jerry springer material.

Break up.
Delete all of his contact numbers/block on everything.
Tell him it is over forever and no amount of him begging will make you change your mind - then stick with it.

Some women allow men to treat them bad and keep having them back - don't be that woman. Have higher standards, raise the bar and be a woman who respects herself and demands more than this rubbish.

Why are you accepting him as part of your life? Do you not think that you and your kids deserve better than all this 'He said, I said, he said...' drama?

You are offering your kids no escape from a dramatic, conflict ridden upbringing. All you need to do is walk away from this man which will calm their lives down in the short term, and demonstrate to them (with long term effect), that the thing to do in a conflict ridden relationship is to walk away.

If you don't do this, they will think that this is what adult relationships look like. They will seek it out in their own lives (I suspect you have learned the pattern from your parents, who were conflict ridden?)

Show them peace.

im thinking to pack my bags tomorrow and go while he’s at work

This is the most sensible thing in your post.

The man is abusive towards you. You deserve much much much better than this. You are stronger than you think, find that strength. You need to get yourself and your children as far away from this disgusting piece of crap as soon as possible.

If you have somewhere to go, go there and then block him completely from your life.

You'll be amazed at how happy you become once he is no longer dictating everything to you and treating you like a sub human.

You've got kids so be a grown up and put them and you first. This guys a total dick and is using you for sex and nothing else because he certainly doesn't love you. Over and above everything else he called your kids a mistake and you let him. That's awful.

My kids are not his just so I note
my kids I don’t have them full time they are split between me and there dad 1 week me 1 week him

and no I don’t expose my kids to any immature behavior
there happy and actually like him because nothing is shown infront of them

Whatever your think your feelings are for this piece of sh*t that are keeping you with him, you owe it to your children to get them away from this horror show.

You are being abused, and as a result they will suffer. Get help. Contact Women's Aidfor support on how to leave if you need it. Now is a great time to do that.

He said I made a mistake by having kids with their dad and not sticking together as a family
and said he never wants that in life that’s why he’s never had kids until hes 100% sure which I respect
but he just says why I should be punished cos of your mistake
when u got them I want to go out not be stuck in cos u got to be
which again I said ok I understand also I can be reasonable

but funny he only wants to go out alone the week I got the kids
cos he knows I’m trapped in
but the week I don’t he wants to go out together
yeh so I don’t go out and leave him stuck inside

not that he would approve of it
hes old fashioned and thinks men are more powerful
men are men
and women shouldn’t act the same as a man
that it’s disgusting for a women to go out with friends and come back pissed

which I don’t mind I’ll rather go out with him anyway
but I don’t agree with his way of thinking

like I can go out for a coffee or see friends
but to go out on a night out and get drunk yeh I’ll be dumped

Do you seriously think your kids don't know anything's up, just because they don't see him abuse you?

Arevyiu really this desperate for a man you’ll put up with this? Good god I’m cringing in shame for you.
Get some pride, if not for yourself then think of your kids.

So how are you going to explain to them that he's suddenly never there when they are because he'd rather have beer and coke?

like I can go out for a coffee or see friends but to go out on a night out and get drunk yeh I’ll be dumped

Sounds like the perfect reason for a night out to me