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[Dreamer2020]

He sometimes comments on what I wear , I wore gym clothes today and he asked if I’m going to wear other clothes later that dad as he didn’t like my outfit. Do u think this is unreasonable as makes me feel bad

How would he respond if you said what @frozendaisy suggested?

Nip this in the bud with
"I'm a grown woman I will wear what I like when I like if you don't like it well suck it up buttercup, have I made myself perfectly clear

He is controlling you - likely this will get worse. I'd leave if I were you.

That's great. Means you can leave and start your own life away from being controlled.

Don't you think that's the best idea? You can be happy living like this.

It sounds like he wants to isolate you and undermine your confidence; this is emotional abuse

I do but I don’t know where to start I’m in debt and wouldn’t have enough money for rent etc .

Thank you for your comments I really means a lot. I don’t have anyone to talk to

Well you are earning and you might be entitled to some benefits. For a start you would get a discount on council tax you live alone.

If It's just you and no kids, how about looking to rent a room in a flatshare instead of a whole flat?

I don't know what prices are like in your area but i could rent a room in a flat with one or two other women for 400-500 (bills included). Less if I was prepared to go further out of my area. Take a look on sites like spareroom.

Life is too short to spend with a wanker op.

Unfortunately I only have 200 pounds a months spare after paying off my debts . It’s feel depressing

Speak to your creditors. Tell them you're having trouble and you need a repayment holiday or to pay a token sum for a period of time. I work in debt management and you won't have any trouble doing this. They might ask you to fill in a form detailing your income and expenditure, but if you really only have £200 left over, they're obliged to not demand your money. It's money you need to live on, and they're not legally allowed to put you in a position where you can't afford to live reasonably.

I'm so sorry you feel stuck in this situation. Gym clothes and not wanting you to go out is probably the tip of a really difficult iceberg for you, but it doesn't have to be forever. If you know you need to leave, which sounds like it would be a really good idea for you, and you don't know where to start you can chat online with a support worker from Womens' Aid, here's a link, they are lovely.

Okay, so first thing first you need to work to getting into financial secure position. I am in Ireland is there an organisation that helps we have MABS here they can agree different terms etc to help free up income.

Then move - this is not acceptable and it likely will escalate - you can do this.