I dont know what I want from this thread. A vent, abiu, clarity, support... no idea but I havent been able to get this out of my head.
Yesterday DH and I went to pick up a large item from Argos in my new (to me) car. We dont have a manual for it yet so do not understand some of the controls ie satnav, mykey stuff. I have repeatedly asked him not to fiddle with the controls until we know more. He decided to delete all settings in the trip meter (miles per gallon, etc) and I told him to stop. Major strop. He also put on the stop/start without telling me (and he still denies) but I had done a test drive that day. I had driven it from another city back to home (over 30 miles) but it decided to stop on a corner when I went to pick DD up from work that day. I couldnt understand why it kept repeatedly stalling at a junction since it had been perfect up to then. He still denies he pressed the button but it does have A on it so possibly he thought it was A(ircon). He does frequently bugger things up by not reading instructions.
Anyway, I put my window down and a minute later started leaving the drive. DH started fiddling with the aircon and I told him to leave it be. He said he was hot, so I replied open your window then. Well.... you would think I had kicked a puppy. He shouted at the top of his voice (my ears were ringing it was that loud), tore off his seatbelt where it hit the glass window with such force I thought it might crack, opened the door while the car was still moving, swiveled his body to leave the car and had one foot one inch off the ground.
Normally I would stop, and either shout back or try to explain (again) why I didnt want it. This time I carried on driving. If I had stopped then he would have got out and the preordered item not collected (I cant physically put it in the car). So we would have the same scenario today, or tomorrow or until it got collected, or it wouldnt get collected and we would have to try and get the money back (which he doesnt do). Anyway..... he shut the door, restrapped the seatbelt and sat in silence the whole way. He didnt touch the aircon, nor opened his window. He sat there getting hotter and hotter. Same on the way back.
I still cant get over him trying to get out of a moving car, while shouting at the top of his voice (I cant actually recall any of his words) just because I told him to open a window. Please help me make sense of it so I can let this go.
((btw dont hate me for no aircon in this weather, I have a lung condition where window open, no aircon actually helps me breathe, and it was cool enough anyway)).