Need some advice please
Am I really the bad guy here? Boyfriend broke his arm badly 6 months ago, it was hard work looking after him, snappy, would wake me up when he couldnt sleep, I was doing loads for him, it was a very testing time when I did snap back sometimes how mean he was. Badly needed something to look forward to so convinced him to book a holiday, he thought it was too expensive (350 for 3 nights in a caravan in wales) a few arguments later it was booked. We since found out he needs an operation on his broken arm, hospital have been terrible booking it with delays, but he wasn't great in chasing it up despite me reminding him. He's been on it today, they never added him to the list for an operation so they have squeezed him in the same day as we are meant to go on holiday. So I'm sitting with the kids, he comes in grinning saying he's got a date for the op, I said are you joking, he said no. I reminded him that's when we go on holiday, he said didn't realised and he's accepted it. I said did you even ask if there was another date, he said no and he's waited long enough for this date, he wouldn't even ask if it could be a week later. So I've had to cancel the only holiday we've booked in 3 years. Will loose out on the money as it was booked via Facebook, private booking.
I've not had a go at him but I am obviously upset and been really quiet and close to tears. I needed that holiday, work, kids, school run, him, pets a never ending cycle that I needed a break from. He keeps yelling at me how selfish I am. I've cancelled the holiday so am allowed to be upset that was the 1 thing I had to look forward to is gone. Kids are upset too. Tried booking a few days for just me and the kids week before his op, but he wants to come, but cant get time off work so close to his operation, so me and the kids shouldn't go. I cannot win.
We haven't been getting on since he broke his arm, he's so moody and snappy and yes sometimes I have a go back. He said tonight that I'm pathetic for being upset about 3 days in a caravan, I should just go with this kids as its not like I look after him properly after he broke his arm 6 months ago, he said he could feel the distain oozing from me and its probably right, trying to help someone wash themselves, or dress themselves and him constantly having ago at me isnt a great experience.
Had a rough day at work before all the operation stuff to be told from him , it's not like I have a real job, it's part-part time job (doubly part time as I work in a school) so upset and angry. I've cancelled it yet not allowed to be upset or to plan anything else or it will upset him. Absolutely heartbroken at wanting to do something nice for a change its been so long since we've done anything nice like that