Anyone regret their divorce or separation?

[Minty90]

I don't respect my DH. And I regret picking him as the father of my kids. He's not horrible exactly but he's small minded and feels sorry for himself for no reason

But we get on. I've spent today putting in plans in place to leave (research, paperwork etc) but then we just spent couple of hours on the sofa taking the piss and being silly.

I enjoy his company. I really do. But I also think he's a total idiot. He talks so much nonsense and is so defensive. But we also get on. There is no tension in the house because when he starts talking I think about something else. But I still want him near me.

I'm so confused. Divorce would be awful (as it would with anyone). But I'm so confused as to why I want to spend time with someone I don't even like.

Any advice. All I think about is divorce. It's exhausting.

Oh god @Minty90 I was reading through the first part of the thread, nodding at the similarities, then you threw Jordan Peterson in. My stbexh is his biggest sodding fan. He watches his videos, has been to see him talk, has all his books (even a bloody audio book version, which as you know is the worst possible thing with his whiny voice.) I bet he's a fan of Ben Shapiro too. He knows how I feel about this rubbish, but he still watches on the sly. I caught him watching BS (literally!) the other night as I pulled up outside the house and he didn't quite manage to switch it off in time so I saw it through the window. Add to that Beavis and Butthead. Never mind the politics obsession. What I'm saying is, divorce will be hard, it just is, but the alternative is to stay as you are, and to stay as I am. We cannot do this. Please keep your momentum and change things now xx

(even a bloody audio book version, which as you know is the worst possible thing with his whiny voice.)

Friend of mine once described this as "imagine the Malleus Maleficarum narrated by Kermit the Frog" haha. (Sorry to joke on a serious thread.)

No .

It was very difficult going though divorce but I'm out the other side now , and happier for it.
I don't regret it, but i do feel a tinge of sadness that I won't ever celebrate a silver wedding anniversary, for instance.

Yes @19Bears He does watch Ben Shapiro too. YUK. He doesn't hide it but I do openly mock it.

The irony is that he buys into this whole alpha male thing...you know men should be men right wing nonsense...but he's too "anxious" to open the electricity bill. I manage his whole life, earn 70% of the income etc. He is basically horribly insecure and watching all that nonsense on YouTube somehow makes him feel like a man.

I think that’s exactly who they’re aimed at- secure men don’t need to watch daft videos telling them they’re better than women.