Does it bother you when friends, family or DP leave you on read?

[LadyofBarcelona]

When they don’t reply, just leave your message on seen, do you take it personally?

[SparklingPeach]

No, it doesn't bother me at all. I do the same so I can't really blame them! As long as they reply eventually it's fine.

[gamerchick]

No, I do it myself. If I'm busy I'll get back to it later. It's unreasonable to demand people to he instantly available. I expect the same from other people.

If I have a particularly stroppy pal I'll read the message without opening it and get to it later though. We all know one.

[Skinnermarink]

No, why?

[HSKAT]

No as I do it aswell.

[SingingInParadise]

No it doesn’t.

I know I probably do the same. I’ve ‘seen’ the message as in I’ve seen I’ve got a message but haven’t actually read it properly. I get back to people when I have time to do it. Usually some time that day.

i don’t expect anyone to be glued to their phone and to answer immediately as soon as they have ‘seen’ the message. Why should they? Unless it’s a pretty urgent message (and then I would probably ring instead anyway), it’s always something that can wait. And I don’t think that what’s wrong I sent is always more important than anything else happening in their life.

[Beamur]

No. I do it myself all the time 😁
Depends if the message actually needs a reply. I don't reply just to keep up message ping-pong

[Iceewicee]

Depends on the person and conversation etc. If I'm asking something important, yes it would. If I'm just sending a random chit chat message, no. I understand people are busy.

I have someone who sends random memes at 11pm despite knowing that I'm up at the crack of dawn and usually in bed at 10pm. Then gets annoyed when I don't reply. Or when I reply at 5am when I'm up for the day.

[MarryMeTomHardy]

Yes, but only where I have asked a question & if they don't reply same day, it takes <30 secs to read & reply IMHO

[dudsville]

It doesn't bother me, sometimes people are busy, sometimes they forget, it's ok.

[yellowsmileyface]

I take it more personally when it's someone I don't know very well. With those close to me I trust that they're not just avoiding me and they must have a reason not to immediately respond so it doesn't bother me.

[nbrown2022x]

Not in the slightest. I know they'll respond soon enough. I'm also guilty for it! Xx

[EBearhug]

Depends what it is. If it's showing as read and it's something like, "I'm in Tesco, do we need milk?" I'd be annoyed, but if it's nothing urgent or a comment rather than a question, then no.

[twomumsonebump]

Not at all. People have busy lives. People forget things. It's no big deal.

[Watchkeys]

No. I don't expect to be their priority every time I send them a message.

Do you?

[Comefromaway]

I do this all the time. My messages show up on my car sat nav screen when I am driving or they pop up on my phone on the desk next to nme when I'm at work but in both situations it is not possible to reply.

[Watchkeys]

Actually, it's quite a nuanced question. If someone did it repeatedly and for long periods when I was asking something important and urgent, it would piss me off. But for casual conversation or arranging meeting up, no problem.

[BlusteryLake]

Err, no. I really dislike this entitlement to instant attention that some people seem to have. Why bring unnecessary drama into your life with all this overthinking?

[Thebeastofsleep]

Why would anyone take it personally? That's so self-involved. Other people have lives that don't revolve around replying to messages immediately.

[OceanbreezeSun]

No!

I never take it personally.

None of the messages are usually urgent, just general chit chat that don’t necessarily require a response.
I don’t always reply back for days either.

We would just ring one another if something was urgent or needed a reply quickly.

[Eatthecake80]

I will read it but if it isn’t important or an emergency then I reply when I have time.

[NippyWoowoo]

It does when I need to to answer my question about plans we have made.

Regular occurrence between me and a friend:

Monday: friend asks if I'm free Friday and would like to me.

I reply yes, dinner?

Friend replies sure. Nothing more said at the time.

Thursday eve: I message friend asking are we still on for tomorrow? What time suits? Where would you like to meet? Make a couple of suggestions.

Friend comes online after first message is sent, stays online as I send the other. Reads and doesn't respond.

That's rude IMO, if you don't want to meet that's fine I can make other plans, but I need to know before I leave for work the next morning so that I know if I'm driving, am I taking the train to meet you after, etc etc.

Yes she may have stuff going on but so do I.

[Comefromaway]

It does when I need to to answer my question about plans we have made.

In which case, phone them.

I text/whatsapp when I am not sure if someone is in a position to respond eg they may be at work. If I need an urgent reply I will always phone.

[magaluf1999]

I wouldn't even know what this meant/how to check.

People reply when its convenient. Unless its an Emergency and then surely you would have called not
Messaged.

I often turn notifications off as i find them
Distracting when i need to
Focus.

[NeedAJobChange]

Generally it doesn't bother me.

Occasionally it does. For example, I have one friend who will be online, chatting back and forth, then leaves no reply to something important and you just know that they're wanting to keep their options open until the last minute. I'd much rather they just say "I'm not sure, I'll see how I feel on the day" or "I don't want to commit to it but let me know if you're still going on the day and I might join you". I think it's more the expectation that I should just have to wait for them to decide if they've had a better offer.

I also had an ex who used to make it really obvious that he was ignoring my messages in order to make plans with others, then he'd get back to me if he had nobody else. Apparently he "was always going to prioritise them" (and that's why he's an ex)

[SleepSleepRaveAsleep]

No. We are all busy people, you might read and reply later when you remember. My husband will often read a message from me at work if it doesn't require an immediate reply I get a reply hours later, fine by me I usually send the message so I remember to ask or tell him something eg children are at x club collect them at x time or get milk on your way home (really sexy messages between us 🤣)