This is something that comes up day in, day out on here and in many other female-centric communities: women posting for advice about their relationships with men who do not do their fair share of childcare, cleaning, cooking and other domestic drudgery (or who think that they do because they do occasional performance cookery that leaves the woman washing up every pan in the kitchen, or they do the garden maintenance twice a year and consider that equivalent to keeping the house clean every single day, or they do the DIY - grudgingly and weeks after it's needed in many cases - and similarly consider these occasional tasks equivalent to the regular upkeep of a home).
Often both partners work, but the drudgery still defaults to the woman (look up the statistics on this; it's horrifying). These husbands/partners often also have non-negotiable hobbies that take up loads of time. They consider looking after the children by themselves a favour to their female partner. We've all read about these setups dozens of times.
If you are in one of these unbalanced relationships, how can you look at him and think "yes, that's the man for me"? How can you have an intimate relationship with someone who shows such a lack of respect?
The worst is when these men dare to accuse their exhausted, overworked, underappreciated female partners of not having sex with them often enough. How can they think they are sexually attractive? How do look at themselves as decent people when they treat their partners like that?
This isn't a wide-eyed "but I don't understand" post - I genuinely don't understand. How does the attraction not just dry up when they treat you like a mother-maid combination?