Male PND is just an excuse for lazy, selfish menchildren to opt out of all work and responsibility while they leave their knackered and in pain partners to do everything. My ex DH even used it as an excuse to shag around and then I was a horrible person for not understanding how hard it was for him ! Funny enough when i was diagnosed with severe PND, self harming and suicidal thoughts i was given massive doses of Prozac and told to just get on with it and not to expect any support from him, family or health professionals.
I'm truly sorry for your terrible experience, both with your unsupportive husband, and your unsupported severe depression.
However, my DH had male PND. (I was like you, pretty bloody unimpressed with this!) He went to the doctor, got prozac, had some piss poor counselling. At no time did he leave everything to me (I also had severe PND). He got up for every nightfeed, he bathed the babe, he did the cooking etc, helped with the washing and housework, and never was anything but supportive, even if all I did was drag myself up, and feed the baby and do the nappies etc during the day. I wish so much you'd had that experience. He was working full time in a high stress job with a bastard boss, that time, and we had absolutely no familial support, all we had was each other.