What do you think about this message I've received?

[Weirdmessage]

I've just received a random message on Facebook, what do you think about it?
I have been married to my husband for 4 years and we have a 4 year old and a newborn.

Yeah I think it is a scam / spam.
I don't have any concerns about my husband and have no interest in checking his messages.

Thanks all for agreeing it's most likely junk and nothing to worry about.

Id want to check, but neither of us are able to check each other's phones. They have PINS on and we don't know the other's.

So, in this situation, if you asked your partner if they were having an affair, and they said 'No', would you think they were perhaps lying?

If you're partner asked to see your messages/check their FB account to prove your trustworthiness, what would you think?

Honestly I'd just show him my chats. But then I don't believe a single person on earth is entirely truthful/trustworthy

So, in this situation, if you asked your partner if they were having an affair, and they said 'No', would you think they were perhaps lying?

Yes. I think it would be suspicious not to show your inbox in this kind of situation.

But then I don't believe a single person on earth is entirely truthful/trustworthy

It's quite a stretch to not trusting your partner to be faithful, though, isn't it?

I'm fascinated by this. How can people claim to love someone if they don't believe what they say?

Yes. I think it would be suspicious not to show your inbox in this kind of situation

It shows suspicion to ask, though. You're essentially telling your partner that you don't believe what they tell you.

If my partner asked me to show my inbox, it'd indicate a serious demise in the state of our relationship, to the point that if she insisted, I'd end it. It's so unhealthy to need your partner to show you written proof that what they're saying is true.

I'm fascinated by this. How can people claim to love someone if they don't believe what they say?

I don't think the two are related. They aren't for me anyway. I love my mum but I don't doubt that she doesn't mean everything she says to me, has her own secret opinions about me I wouldn't want to hear, likely says things behind my back. Doesn't change that I love her.

It shows suspicion to ask, though. You're essentially telling your partner that you don't believe what they tell you.

You are correct, I don't. I never have with any partner and I never will, because every time I have been suspicious... I've been correct, even though they say they've done nothing wrong. A lifetime of being absolutely correct every time might have that influence on you. You can never trust someone's word. Every time i've got hold of that inbox without them knowing, I've found what I was looking for.

Shame, @Anxiernie

Not everybody's like that.

But I think if I felt suspicious, I'd leave anyway. The trust is already gone. Checking messages doesn't really prove anything, because they could still have used a different account/phone or deleted messages. If you don't trust them, you'll never feel you know, regardless of what they show you.

Nope. Still bonkers.