Is your date suggesting their house on a first date a warning sign?

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Is a date suggesting their house for a first date weird or is it ok? Or should I suggest my house instead? Or just go somewhere public?

Means they want a shag

Absolutely public place.

No reason to go there or for a stranger to know where you live!!!

Yes definitely.

Not necessarily a warning sign, but at best naivety that they'd assume a woman would feel safe doing that. Would make me a bit 🤔

Is it someone you know and trust? If so I'd be ok with it.

If it's someone you don't know, definitely meet in public.

Unless you already know them then no I certainly would not be going to their house and absolutely wouldn't be letting them come to mine or know where I live

You really need to ask 😯

Go somewhere public. Or maybe. don't meet them at all.

They have not demonstrated appropriate consideration of the other person's POV... big red flag.

Equivalent of asking you home for a coffee. No mistaking that

Apart from all the above, it shows complete lack of effort. A date is going out somewhere even if just a coffee initially.

Omg - do not go to their house and DEFINITELY DONT invite them to your house on a first date.

You don’t know this person at all.

They are blatantly just after sex and you are putting yourself in a very vulnerable position. It would put me right off them,

If you’re asking this, you REALLY shouldn’t be dating.

you cannot put yourself in this position

At best, they just expect sex and are lazy.

At worst, they are probably a psycho killer.

Meant to say neither is particularly appealing.

It's a sign they're hoping for a shag.

I also can't believe this is a question! Of course you don't go back to a strangers house on the first date. Or let them know where you live.

Why would you ever go to a complete stranger’s house? Or invite them to yours?

Think first of your own safety. That takes priority.

Any potential first date who tries to get you to go to their home might have nefarious intentions. Or they might be too mean / poor / lazy to meet you in a public place.

Just say no. And don’t invite them to your home. And don’t give them your address.

They want a shag. If you want more, don't bother. They've set out their stall.

If you also want that, is it OLD or are you already known to each other? If you've not met before then meet in public. Bloody awkward if you don't fancy them and worst case, dangerous.

No it doesn't always. Some people can actually restrain themselves.

Of course you shouldn’t go to their house. Or yours. You don’t even know them!

Think of your safety. They also might just want a shag.

Regardless of if they want sex or not, he's not showing the best of himself by asking you to go to his home on the first date. He's just expecting you to automatically think he's not a psycho without proof.

Neither is appropriate in any way and both are extremely dangerous. You could be trapped in his house with a violent psycho and if he comes to yours, he knows where you live if he turns out to be a dangerous psycho or even someone you don't want to see again.

Please meet for the first few dates, until you know someone, in a public place and if you do go to his house, always tell someone exactly where you are.

This really shouldn't need pointing out to be honest

This is meant to be the honeymoon period where he's showing you the very best of him. A man who can't be arsed leaving the house to meet you isn't what most women dream of!

Beside the safety aspect (which really does have to be seriously considered) what does it tell you about what life with this man would be like?

After the date or right off the bat? Safety stuff aside, unless he's a broke student I'd expect wayyy more effort for a first date.

Go public.

Assuming you've never met them in person before there's no way you should go to their house for a first date. Yes it means they want a shag, but if you get there and discover they're actually really skeevy and creepy that puts you in a very vulnerable position.