Feeling nervous as tonight is the night

[VJasper86]

Just wanted to start a thread because tonight is the night me and dh sit down to discuss our marriage.

Here's to hoping that he has actually spent time to reflect on his behaviour and suggest potential solutions he is prepared to try on ways that we could positively move forward (ie personal counselling, couples counselling, research on his strained relationship with ds etc)
I will let people know how it goes.

I generally feel sick and can't focus right now as I have been waiting so long to get to a resolution. I told him numerous times that I was ready to talk sooner than the end of the month but he kept saying to keep it as it was and I wanted to give him time I'd he claimed he needed it. We shall see.
Link to past threads in case......

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4556739-i-actually-told-him

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4572088-gentle-reminders-to-be-brave

I find all the comments really helpful and the support amazing.
I have taken bigger steps than I thought I could and I have pushed more because the comments on here have helped me to be able to properly articulate some quite difficult and upsetting feelings.
Really appreciate it all

I’m in a similar situation and having couples counselling. I have also Had individual counselling. Relationship towards me has been toxic at times. I don’t even think my dh was aware he was doing it. Now we are in a place where he wants to try and I’m not sure I can trust him. It’s tough. I think maybe you need to think ahead of how you see your life in the future and if he is part it. Good luck.