In-laws and Birthday Cards

[InLawQuestion]

Do your In-laws give/send you a birthday card? Or just their grandchildren and son/daughter?
I ask this because my in-laws don’t send me a card for my birthday, they send one to my DH and their grandchildren but not to me. They’ll also send them vouchers or money. My parents give my DH a card with money/vouchers every year.
I am not wanting gifts, money etc but is it unusual for in-laws not to send birthday cards to their daughter/son in-laws?

I get on well with my mil and have been married many years but we’ve never sent each other cards. DH organises a gift and card for her.

it’s completely fine imo. I’d much rather her focus is on her son and grandchildren than me

I am a MIL. I do not send cards (waste of trees and postage) but I do a cake for each of my Son-in-laws on their birthdays. It has been a tradition every since they joined our family. And yes, I consider my daughters' husband/partner a member of our immediate family.

Yes. My (late) exMIL always gave me a card and money bless her, even after we spilt, 8 years before she sadly died. My mum and dad still give my ExH cards and a bottle of his favourite tipple at Christmas and birthday which I think is lovely.

My parents buy my current partner cards and gifts and his send me a card and voucher. They don't send anything to my adult children as they've never met them (they live 4hrs drive away and elderly so we drive to them to visit.)

My current partner still buys his ex MIL cards and gifts on her birthday and takes her for afternoon tea which I think is great.

I would say something to my parents if they didn't acknowledge my partners birthday - it's rude not to send a card to just one member of their family.

Cards, yes, but never any birthday gifts for either of us, or the children. They'll send a cheque with a few quid for the kids at Christmas, but nothing for their son or me. I've always found it a little weird but then they've never actively wanted to see their grandchildren either so I've just accepted it.

well i never send my MIL a seperate card from me. It would be a joint card from both of us which boyfriend organises.

Onky thing we disagree on is that boyfriend includes ME on his mothers/fathers day cards and i do not. As thats a much more personal thing. My cards say "you are the best father in the world" or some such and why should bf sign that when its not true for him!

but he sticks my name on his mothers/fathers day cards (they are much more generic - happy fathers day - type cards)

My mum says she doesn’t ‘do’ partners- so no cards presents etc for husbands wives boyfriends girlfriends etc. I get them from my mil though.

Nope, never had a birthday card from the in-laws.
My mum sends cards with a gift/voucher/money to all her sons and daughters in law though.

My in-laws always send me a card and small gift. They are absolutely wonderful people.

My parents on the the other hand wouldn’t know when my husband’s birthday is. They’re pretty patchy on their own chicken/grandchildren’s birthdays (more often than not, nothing). They’re quite self absorbed so we just ignore it.

Children, not chickens

My inlaws dont even bother sending to their grandchildren we have but they do their other son's! When I did ask they said they didn't do cards. I was always a big card sender but have stopped sending to them now too and the first time we didn't my DH's stepdad had a real go that "I" hadn't sent a mothers day card to MIL. I said (a) she is not my mother and (b) I thought "we didn't do cards" now.

My mother is mean or gift is recycled. My mil got me nice makeup last year. Im right after xmas so not best month!