He has been sleeping from afternoon and been awake the hole night.

[curlygirl84]

He went to sleep from 5 in afternoon and been sleeping ever sense. The kids went to bed as their usual time at 8. Had nothing to do with theme. He has been up the hole night been doing f all.. now they are up. Am I in the wrong from nothing doing nothing and not get them ready for school and nursery?

I can’t seem to thing this is a cruel and nasty person trying to prove a point?
I am depressed and from yesterdays heated conversation he has not said one word to me.. I am not sure if I can cope anymore,, I am so lost and upset…

Yes he is…

I've lived with someone who smoked weed heavily. I tell you now, he'll never change, no matter how many times you ask him to stop or he tells you he's going to try and quit.

You and your DC deserve better than someone who puts weed first. You're managing everything by yourself anyway, I found it easier to do this without feeling constantly resentful about the lack of support. Financially, you'll be entitled to benefits, you may even find you're better off.

Can I ask why you are still with him?

Did he start smoking since you decided to have a child together?

If not, you both decided to have a child in a household with drug use.

My dad worked nights - it took a good 2/3 days each shift change to get back into a normal sleeping pattern. My brother worked perm nights, he didn't have time at weekends to get back into a normal pattern so just kept to his weekday sleeping pattern with a couple less hours.

It's not as simple as just changing sleep patterns, it would be like having jet lag every weekend. That aside when he's awake he should be doing his share

He started sense kids where born…

Yet there’s currently a thread on here from a woman who works nights and still does all the childcare. And the man manages to drag himself out of bed to go out with his mates of course. I guess women must just be built differently…🙄

The sleeping pattern I get but he can't just decide in his waking hours to not parent - as I said my brother and dad both do nights but when they are awake they pull there weight. You're not getting anything out of this relationship so seriously look at splitting up.

Amazing how it always seems to work like that.

No matter what job the man has or what hours, they always seem to position themselves in the best way for them to have the most leisure time and do the least housework and childcare.

yes.. how amazing.. thank you so much for all you input... much appreciated..