Please help me stick to NC

[NoMoreShit]

Previous thread is here:

www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4572715-to-honey-trap-or-just-walk-away

I feel like I'm going crazy. Just 4 days after we split he's on a day out at the seaside with a new squeeze. Goes to show what he thought of me. I cut all contact except 1 message saying 'Your key has been posted'. I've felt upset & empty but I've managed to push it to the back of my mind. Today, however, I feel like I've been punched in the stomach. I've been thinking of reasons to contact him or excuses to call at his place later. I know it's crazy, I know feeling like this is natural & normal after a break up & I know it'll get easier with time, but I feel like I'm going crazy.

Please can I ask for some help holding out on the no contact? I really fear I might crack today.

Have you got a friend or sibling you can talk to? When I’ve been struggling not to call someone I’ve called on my friends or my sister to give my head a good wobble.

clean the house, Batch cook some meals for the week, go food shopping, do something mindless that keeps you busy and that you’ll be glad you’ve done when you’re finished. Leave your phone on the arm of the sofa and go for a walk, anything.

All it’ll take is time OP, just remember that. Each time you cave in the clock starts again. Draw o’clock and mark off the hours, draw a calendar and mark off the days, anything to remind yourself that you’re moving forward.

it’s hard OP, but you’re tough and you can do it. Good luck.

Try and think how much better, and stronger you will feel tomorrow knowing you have contacted him.

This is how I am taking it at the moment. You just have to be strong, distract yourself today, any way you can. 💐

*have not

Apologise for the typo.... when you *have not contacted him

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There's nothing anyone on here can say that will stop you. You just need to remind yourself constantly why you shouldn't. Every time you feel the urge remind yourself. You can do this!
I went NC with sons dad/abusive ex/waste of space/c##tface 3 months ago. I know it's hard. His mum died last month it was really hard then to stay away but I did. I have to. I just feel like this here, right now is easier compared to what life felt like when he was here. It's still hard some days but it gets easier.

Delete his number.

Write it all out in a letter then burn it.

Keep busy. Lots of good loud music. Time with friends. No booze. You got this

I broke NC during the week after 10 days and it has left me feeling even worse than I did before. I've started again, 3 days in now. When i feel the urge to text I just try to distract myself. Maybe go for a walk or drive and leave your phone behind. I did that yesterday and felt much better by the time I got back.

Posting a key out is something I was told by a police officer never to do. As the envelope has the address on it but yeah, maybe change the locks. Also, how do you know he is out with another down the beach?

why would you want that back in your life? Is he really that great? He made you feel that loved and valued? Look what he is doing now, that is why you should not contact him, the only thing it does is brush his ego and give him a ticket to more heartache. Why would you stoop so low?

Here is what is going to happen, he will dump his new flame, start texting you because he “realised” he made a mistake or whatever, he will love bomb you for a few days and then the cycle continues. Or he may end up happy. So choose you. He is not the last man that can make you feel alive and lived so wise up and DONT text him. Not even if he is so so sorry because is isn’t.