Why does everyone like her?

[plankofwood]

I posted a while ago so won't bore you too much with backstory.
We were "friends " over 15 years but she always put me down and I think she was jealous..always commenting on clothes I wore that she hated them ..then wore them.
Blah blah
But we did have good times in all that,went on holidays together,I would look after her kids etc etc.
Then I started seeing her friend and she made it her mission to split us up (it worked )
Saying I was crazy ,I was unstable ..making up so many lies about me ..ultimately cutting off our friendship saying I was abusive (to split us up -im not )
She has done similar to ex's and other friends.

Anyway my ex has a new gf now and she is liking the new girlfriends pics (love this hun) (so happy for yous )
And the new gf is loving her Facebook posts too.

Why couldn't she just let us be happy? Why do all of what she did to me ? Then be all over this new woman.
Why can't people see what she is?
Why did none of them think "hang on she's been friends all those years ..now all of a sudden she says all of this -makes no sense "

It honestly makes me so upset
Why do people like her ? When she's so toxic

Why are you still following her and I presume the new gf on social media?

@MichelleScarn I'm not,my friend follows my ex and when she was over showed me.
I have her blocked on everything..as I don't want to see her face anywhere

(Ex friend and ex )

Block, delete and move on.

Cross post
ask your friend not to to show you any posts, just say you are not interested

self preservation, they don’t want to be one of her targets.

I'd be more suspicious of the 'friend' that felt a need to show you that. She must follow the initial friend and the new gf too, not just your ex to see their interaction?

Very odd that your friend forensically analysed this on your behalf to the extent you know what she liked, what all the comments were etc.

honestly stop social media stalking, it’s time to move on.

No she just follows my ex friend but when you click his new gf name ..all her posts have the world sign so I'm assuming it's public for everyone to see.

I am moving on but it's a massive sickener when nobody seems to see her true colours
I got treated like absolute shit because she hated me.
Yet is pretending she's the next coming to this new gf

Move on. Grow up. Stop living through social media/Facebook. If a man was so easily swayed by the false comments your friend made then he wasn't the kind of man for you.

So you actively have to look at the ex friends then look stalk for and click on the new gf name? So yes actively seeking her out.
Do you think the ex should never, ever be able to have a new gf?

@MichelleScarn no that's not what I'm saying at all.
I'm saying my so called friend actively sabotaged our relationship now is licking his new girlfriends backside ..so fake
And telling how much she must of hated me.
I have a new boyfriend but it still stings that a friend could cause me so much pain ..on purpose

Op you’ve posted about this before, honestly it’s time to move on. Stop obsessing about the pair of them, stop looking at their social media, new girlfriends social media, it’s really unhealthy.

Yes it's shit. People can be shit. She was always a bit shit to your though by the sounds of it. Unfortunately it's just one of those things. There is nothing you can do about it. Enjoy your life knowing she's a shit and most people probably don't really like her anyway. You don't need to dwell on it anymore. Just enjoy your new boyfriend and life without the grief of her 'friendship'.

Social media is unhealthy full stop.

It's not even about him no more.
I just hate her and how she treated me and struggling to let it go.
She's poison and I just wish people could see her true colours.

'Why can't people see what she is?'

Well, you didn't.
And you were close with her.

She's an utter bitch who is intent on ruining your life and yet you still seem to have her as a fb pal?

Come on now op. Other people do exactly what you did, ignoring all the stuff thats a bit 'off' because they just want to assume if she is their friend, she must be a good person who wants good things for them.

People willfully keep their eyes closed and its not up to you to bring them up to speed. Because most of them want to continue to assume the world is all sunshine and daisy's and evil people don't exist I their lives, right under their noses.

All you can do is be thankful you finally admitted to yourself what she was. And block all contact.
Also block any related people.

In future be anyone that anyone who turns your life into a drama or into their competition - is not your friend.

-be aware that anyone

@plankofwood
I think we've all had a shitty friend at some point who's stabbed us in the back. Maybe not everyone, but the majority.
Zero contact would be best so blocking off every platform so you can't see what she's upto. Happiness is the best revenge so try to move on. People like that want a reaction. Emotional vampires. Don't give your energy at all.

Oh and you gotta let go of that poison or it'll eat you up. And that's what she wants. For you to be consumed thinking about her.

Better off if you let her fall into insignificance.
If there's one thing people like her hate, it's being forgotten.

Get out and about and do something fun in thr sunshine. If you want to be petty, take some pics and add a carefree tag like 'enjoying some sun and sangria. Happy days'. Then anything that gets back to her is just that you seem to be living a happy, carefree life, irregardless of the shit she pulled so...so long ago...that you never even think of it or her anymore (#livingmybestlife) lol.

She will trip herself up eventually!

@Pinkbonbon oh I do,I still have a few of her friends on social media so I happily posted lots of pics in Cyprus last week.
I wouldn't let on to them that I still thought about any of it.

The fact she uses 'hun' and 'yous' sums up she's a c**t 😁

Not but in all seriousness I had a 'friend' like this. She was just a toxic bitch. Still is. Don't speak to her anymore. She tries to talk to me I don't engage. The most sly, devious person I've ever met. Tried to break me and my DP up too. Didn't work and here we are 10 years later.

Sometimes you just have to drop people like that. It's not even worth it!

People can see through her but it's probably a case of "keep your friends close and your enemies closer".

My ex SIL sounds like your ex friend. I knew what she was but was easier to keep her onside as I regularly seen the fallouts from her other relationships.