OLD- gave me his number then didnt reply!

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We only matched yesterday so not a huge deal but spent all day messaging back and forth, conversation flowed easily/ a little flirty, but nothing sexual. He asked me if I would like to go out and sent me links to suggestions of places. Told me he's happy to come my way or mine to his etc. He ended the night sending me his number and saying talk to you tomorrow, sweet dreams.
I sent him a message on whatsapp this afternoon, but no response. It's not been "read" but he has been online. 7 hours later still no reply.
What would you make of this? Im new new to online dating- is this the norm? It just seems bizarre to offer someone your number and then not respond! Or do guys usually take a few days in these situations?

He's read it and not replied. I'd say he's not interested.

Personally I'd delete his number and any messages. If he contacts you then maybe question him.

Don't waste your time thinking it over

I agree with this. Sorry, OP, there is a slim (very slim!) chance something out of his control prevented him replying, but really he probably just wanted the nice chat, as an ego boost, and had no intention of meeting.

I've had this countless times. As above person it could be an ego boost or he's found someone else he likes better and so he's investing time in them now.

Yesterday his wife wasn’t home, today she is. Maybe

So he replied early this morning (i sent the message at 5pm yesterday) apologising for the slow reply and said he was out with his team last night.
He also has his read receipts turned off as he's replied but still no blue ticks.
Just cba with time wasters who take over 12 hours to respond to 1 message and if he's been online multiple times during that period too.
Red flag or fair enough?

Do you think you could tolerate that in someone you were dating?

Red flag. Don’t invest.

He was very responsive the previous night (albeit on the dating app) replying very quickly.
I'm assuming maybe his "team" was likely another woman which is fine, we haven't even met, just feel it take 2 seconds to send a reply saying you're busy if you are on and off whatsapp anyway during the evening.
Do I give him the benefit of the doubt and reply or just park it now?

I wouldn't see it as a red flag at this time. He had a busy day, yeah it would be nice if he had got back sooner but he might not have wanted to get into a message exchange when he had a lot on. If he did this after you'd met I'd have a different view.
Good luck on your date! Hope it goes well.

Just relax! It takes me longer to reply to friends and family some days...sometimes I'm able to quickly read a message but not reply. Give the guy a break...intensity will kill it before it even starts 🤦‍♀️

I wouldn't read too much into it yet; it's perfectly feasible that he did go straight from work and out, and would rather wait until he got the chance properly to respond to you. Leaving it unread isn't abnormal in that situation, I do that sometimes so that I have a reminder there to reply, albeit not in an OLD context.

It is still very early days, I wouldn't write him off immediately, but of course if it became a repeated pattern of behaviour, then yes, get rid!

You’re reading far too much into this. You’ve exchanged a handful of messages over a day. WhatsApp is just a more convenient way of doing it than the dating site. He asked you out, gave you his number, and then responded to your message when it was convenient to do so.

But yes, it’s probably an indication that you aren’t likely to be compatible and should drop this one. People who need their text messages responded to within a couple of hours or they get sulky drive me bonkers, it’s likely they do him as well.

His suggestion if going to his or yours means he is only after sex anyway. Was this what you wanted?

Would you advise meeting in the middle then as opposed to either of our areas?
He said he's looking for something long term. I thought he was just trying to be accommodating by saying he is happy to travel to my area if I wanted.
Would understand more if he was asking to literally come to my house or inviting me to his....

I think you need to chill out a bit. He is somebody you have met online a day ago and he can’t be out of contact with you for twelve hours including overnight! Listen to yourself.

This is a bit concerning op. You’re acting like this is your boyfriend already and even then it would be quite needy/controlling.

I think you need to calm down.

No no, I agree. I've just been stung in the past so just wondering if it's something I should be wary of or literally not even bat an eyelid.
I'm not sure what's normal or not in the OLD world so just wanted some external opinions, but I guess even by going out of my way to make this post is probably ridiculous!

I don't think 12 hours is excessive, especially when he has mentioned he had a busy evening.

There is no normal in OLD except expect more bad behaviour than good.

You spent the whole day texting via an app. He was off put so he gave you his
number and said goodnight (‘see you in my dreams’ is a bit tacky but ok). Then he replied early the next morning.

Sounds reasonable to me! He didn’t suggest you move tie conversation to Whatsapp and then left you hanging, he literally said goodnight??

Off OUT not off put. Sorry!

Yep, chill out.
I think PP understood you were going to meet at one of your houses - agree that would mean just sex.

Ah ok, no. Would never go to his or vice versa for a first date! Totally appreciate that would definitely be sex only vibes

Blimey, you only “met” him the day before! Chill out. Neither of you owes the other anything at this early stage.

Haha, He said sweet dreams. I would 100% be icked if he said "see you in my dreams" 🤣

You haven’t even met yet and had only matched the day before. I’d seriously slow your roll.