OLD- gave me his number then didnt reply!

[Sundaycoffee]

We only matched yesterday so not a huge deal but spent all day messaging back and forth, conversation flowed easily/ a little flirty, but nothing sexual. He asked me if I would like to go out and sent me links to suggestions of places. Told me he's happy to come my way or mine to his etc. He ended the night sending me his number and saying talk to you tomorrow, sweet dreams.
I sent him a message on whatsapp this afternoon, but no response. It's not been "read" but he has been online. 7 hours later still no reply.
What would you make of this? Im new new to online dating- is this the norm? It just seems bizarre to offer someone your number and then not respond! Or do guys usually take a few days in these situations?

Ah man i’m sorry for misreading!! Well thank goodness for that!

I reckon he sounds like he’s been enjoying the conversation, and that your fears are understandable but maybe not what the reality is right now? I’d text him back and get to know him a bit more. 😀

He doesn't owe you a quick response at this stage. Always be aware you are likely to one of many he is chatting to. Perhaps he puts effort into getting numbers on WA.

Don't invest too much until you meet him and always be sceptical until you have met a few times. He may be nothing like his photos. I would meet in the middle (how far away are you?)

I’m one for texting and would be pissed off with a long term BF not texting me back in a timely manner. A total stranger though, owes you nothing yet. He may well be on other dates, or with his team etc but it really doesn’t matter as he doesn’t know you from Eve at the moment! Give him a chance, sounds like you click online so meet in person and see what happens.

I'm in Greater London and he lives in Central. Under an hour on the train/tube

@Sundaycoffee, If you are new to OLD join the thread on MN and you'll get great support. Best to have no expectations and just line up a few other dates with other men so you don't focus on him. I would find someone texting frequently, when I haven't met, them very off putting.

Crikey. You haven’t even met this man and you’re monitoring his online presence! There’s a red flag here alright but it’s coming from you, not him.

I had a friend who would follow me around the internet. If I didn’t read/respond to her WhatsApp, she’d message me on Instagram if she saw me active there, or on Facebook. It was intrusive, unwelcome, demanding, controlling and ultimately was a big factor leading to the demise of our friendship.

Definitely cool it with watching if he's online etc! You'll drive yourself mad. You might not even hit it off in person so at least wait until you meet before investing anything. I wouldn't prioritise texting back someone I hadn't met if out with friends or yes, on another date.

This is needy.

You're not dating. He's a stranger and he owes you nothing.

I regularly leave it 12+ hours before replying if I'm busy, including to friends. I would be really annoyed if some entitled rando from an app guilted me for not replying fast enough for their liking and would see it as a red flag.

Agree you need to chill. I always try and reply when I’ve read a message but life sometimes gets in the way.
the guy I am dating is a terrible texter but he’s also a busy man and a single full time parent. He replies when he can and I don’t hold that against him

Did he specifically invite you to message him via What's App or was he expecting a text? It really puts me off when people find me on WA to the point I've deleted it because of how much people read into "last seen" and all the bloody ticks.

Yeah he said here's my number if WhatsApp is easier.
We had a bit of back and forth convo yesterday morning and then he stopped responding and nothing since. I get people are busy but just feel like when you're taking over 24 hours to reply to a message it just loses momentum a bit!
Hes mentioned I would like to take you to x restaurant and I said that would be great but no further plans have been made, so I'll just wait and see what happens and keep expectations low.