I'm posting here for hopefully a sympathetic response, and I guess it is relationship related. I'll try to be brief.
About 6 months ago I was on a work trip with a few colleagues meeting clients. It was an overnight stay. To cut a long story short, one of my male colleagues propositioned me when drunk at the end of a night out. I was shocked and obviously was like 'no way' and scarpered sharpish. I'm married, he's in a LTR and 10 years older than me.
The next day he was very embarrassed, very apologetic, said it's not like him and I didn't deserve it etc etc. I decided to accept his apology as he seemed so embarrassed I thought he'd never do it again! It seemed out of character, and he was a contractor anyway so leaving in a couple of months.
Anyway his contract got extended a few months to handover some work, but we got on professionally and I obviously ensured not to get into that situation again. I did confide in what happened to a colleague who is also a friend who was also shocked, but I didn't think much more about it after that.
Anyway it's transpired he's now done the same thing to another female colleague on a team night out. She confided in the same friend who then told her it had happened before and would she agree to tell me and she said yes. She called the colleague out at the time and told him how inappropriate it was, and he gave all the same apologies he gave me. We obviously had concerns then that it was pattern and whilst we could handle ourselves, we have younger female staff members and worried maybe he would try it with them.
We hadn't really done any more until colleague confided in us both separately that he's in talks to extend again, and possible become a permanent director. Which means a chance of line managing me. My colleague approached me and said that he'd told her he might become permanent and she was concerned about it.
We discussed that we have a duty to say something if he's going to be potentially in this situation of power, so I made a relatively spur of the moment decision to tell our MD (who I have a good relationship with) but in an 'off the record' capacity for the moment. He was very good and said he will take time to consider what to do.
I'm shitting it now for various reasons. That they'll rescind on his extension and he'll know why. That they'll keep him on and I won't know what to do about my own position. That I'll have made an enemy. It's also compounded that at the time he propositioned me I didn't tell my husband (we've had quite a rough time, been in therapy and I know he would have gone ballistic then been very anxious/funny about work trips, which I have to do semi regularly.) As The guy was leaving and I wasn't taking it further I thought best to let it slide. But now I've said something to work i now might have to admit I didn't tell him 6 months ago.
I know the facts are; he's propositioned two female colleagues, we have no idea if it's happened before and no way to know if it will or won't happen again. He may be entering a position of power and we have a duty of care to young female staff members.
However I'm now worried that (as seems to happen in these situations) it will somehow blow up for me and my colleague and we've opened Pandora's box. I'm cross I'm even in this position as if he did manage me I feel my position would be untenable as I have zero respect for him.
So thanks for getting this far - have I done the right thing or not?