Do I confront the woman I've been cheated on with..

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I recently found some messages on my partners phone (not proud of it, I had a gut feeling which turned out to be right). They're Snapchat messages and one of them was about them arranging to meet up. No evidence that they actually did. I've confronted my partner about it and he's adamant he didn't but I'm not so sure. He's was also messaging 4 other girls on Snapchat, one of which his ex. Anyway, I've found the girl he was arranging to meet on Facebook.. and her boyfriend. I really want to message her to get some answers. Do you think I should? If so what should I say? Do I message the boyfriend as well to let him know what's been going on? I think if I was in his position I'd appreciate it if someone told me.

I'm reading all these " dump him, he's a loser" comments but I know how hard it is to separate the person you know and love and to come to terms with the person you think/know they are. You will be battling with the happy times and struggling to understand how it all makes sense, that the love you thought you had could come to this, where you feel second best? Because it just doesn't seem possible. You will be questioning your sanity. Take one day at a time, if you feel you want to say something to the 3rd party, do it, you're not breaking any laws and it might give you closure...as cheesy as it may sound. Or it might make you feel shit, who knows! ,there's no judgement. Hope you're ok, it's a shit place to be, I know this, stay strong xx

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I would message her, tell her you have seen the messages and she has 2 days to tell her partner before you do.
the partner deserves to know and make up his own mind from there

Why her ? He’s cheating with loads of people it would appear ?
I’d do nothing
but dump his cheating ass

Perfect!!!

If she didn't know about you I'd tell her but she clearly knows he's in a relationship and doesn't care so you are not going to get any closure from her, it's probably going to turn into a row and leave you even more upset.
Chin up, tits out and leave him, keep your dignity and move on ❤️

Friend had amiable chats with both women her H had affairs with. She didn't blame them ... but (imho) it was all part of her not being able to let go of him emotionally. It was looking back not forward. She's still obsessed with him (years later). If he changes jobs she has to find out why, etc.

This sounds near enough identical to a situation I was in once. Only difference was I was unaware the arsehole had a girlfriend.

Maybe identifying but I don’t care. If his name begins with A and yours begins with E get rid. Well get rid anyway because he’s clearly a knob but especially get rid of the above is true.

How's things op x

I wouldn’t message her. You may want “answers” or “closure” but really, it won’t make you feel any better in the long run. Save your dignity.

You know you deserve better. And you’ve already forgave him in the past, so he clearly has no respect for you. Walk away. You do deserve better.