Just wondered if anyone had any similar experiences and things resolved in a successful way....
I'm in a relationship of 6 years and I would say about 1 and a half years ago the attraction from my side seemed to disappear. I think this started from when for medical reasons my sex drive just disappeared and we never regained the same kind of relationship. Sex was great for the first part of our relationship before this. I don't think I fancy him and we very rarely have sex, I just really don't want to and the few times we have, I feel uncomfortable and a bit upset afterwards. I try to build up to doing it but just can't bring myself to.
Writing it out it sounds obvious (!) but I wondered if anyone else has been through a long period like this and managed to get things back on track again. We are a great team otherwise, cuddly, enjoy the same things, same life goals and have built a lovely life together.
I admittedly haven't really made a sustained effort to improve things (we are already really cuddly so have intimacy in that way) so it's not surprising it hasn't changed, though I suppose that's because I don't know if I really want to have more intimacy (in terms of anything sexual) with him. My sex drive itself is fine now. This isn't what I want in a long term relationship though and it makes me very unhappy..
Has anyone else experienced similar and it's got better, or can you never start to fancy someone again?