DP won’t go on holiday. Can anyone relate/would you do this?

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He’s great when we are actually on holiday. But…I’m absolutely sick and tired of trying to get him to go. Last time we went away, it was for two nights and took quite literally months of me suggesting things, hun barely engaging etc.

So I ended up planning more stuff with friends which I enjoy.

I’m five months pregnant and really want a week away abroad. I can’t face trying to get DP to go, I would rather not have the hassle. Would you go alone? I feel a bit worried being pregnant but also sad about not going anywhere. Friends are unable to go. It’s not a financial issue before anyone asks, he’s a v high earner.

So fed up :(

And also when I walk on local paths as @SandyY2K says my wife doesn't come with me and for lack of walking buddies I end up going alone! So in a way, we're even (unfortunately).

Ooof I've just had a similar conversation with DH. He's the one keen to go away later in the year, I'm not.

The reason is the date he wants to go. Mid December. It means we get back a few days before Christmas which I love but everything seems rushed. His idea of holiday prep is shoving what he wants to take.in a case. I plan and organise everything else. So animal care, car parking at airport, euros, making sure we have travel insurance etc. Then Christmas prep on top. Plus I'm at uni, kids have school and miss some of the nice bits blah blah blah.

Christmas limits where we go. Usually tenerife. It's nice but not where I always want to go.

So maybe there is some reason that he does not want to go beyond work? If my dh posted it.would read similar to.your OP but I have valid reasons for not being thrilled by a holiday.

I travel solo a lot and love it. I also like travelling with (some) people, but it's a different kind of holiday in some ways - more about spending time together, less about the actual trip and place. I find that some people really like (even prefer) solo travel but some only do it if it's that or not going, and some people really dislike it. I'd say the fact that you're interested and seriously considering it is a good sign that you might be perfectly happy going alone. If you're going to offer him the option of going with you, though, I'd do that before you pick the place - that way if you do go solo you're less likely to be comparing it with the trip you would have had with him.

Prohodilka, not being able to split up for a day or afternoon, ever, would drive me crazy. I think that can only work if both people are truly happy to split the decisions and time evenly -- e.g., we splurge on breakfast and spend the morning on the tourist trail like I want, and then we go check out Soviet-era towerblocks and eat supermarket sandwiches for lunch like you want. If you can't even get a word in on your choices or say you don't like something (but will do it to keep someone you love company), it's not going to be a satisfying trip! But it sounds like you've worked out travelling separately.

We are going on holiday on Saturday. DH has just informed me he isn't going. TBH this always happens before a holiday and I think it is anxiety, but it is exhausting and I don't really understand it. I suggested the destination based on a mutual conversation, he chose the actual property When we are away he will be happier, and if we actually went without him like he says we should, I think he would be really unhappy. But every time? FFS it is wearing.

Been with mine for 6 years and we've never left the area or stayed anywhere overnight. It's honestly crap and it makes me feel like I'm missing out as I grew up without the holiday experiences. We go on the odd trip to somewhere about 20 or so miles away but it's always the same places we visit, it gets boring..

Maybe we need to set up a group for like minded travelling/holiday buddies! After reading this thread earlier I've been whiling away time on the internet looking at all the places I'd love to go to but will never get to see if my DH has his way! Time to start booking trips for myself and DD I think!

Is he a workaholic?

What is his work industry?

I plan to go with my Mum this summer as my husband is strangely refusing.

Where would you like to go? How old are you? When would you go? May we'll meet there :).

*Maybe

At 5 months pregnant, I wouldn't go on my own. I would go with a family member or a friend.