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Setting boundaries in a marriage

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ooopsup · 23/05/2022 09:00

DH and I have been married for six years. Together 12. We're having a bit of a tough patch. We have two small children and it all gets a bit tiring at times.

I've been doing a lot of reading recently and have been thinking some of the issues we're encountering may be due to lack of boundaries in our relationship.

I guess my question is what boundaries do you have in place in your romantic relationships and how do you implement them? What do you do if the boundary is crossed?

OP posts:

me4real · 24/05/2022 16:28

So you’re an extrovert and he’s an introvert.

Someone can be an introvert and still make the effort to listen to and support their wife.

Watchkeys · 24/05/2022 16:33

me4real · 24/05/2022 16:28

So you’re an extrovert and he’s an introvert.

Someone can be an introvert and still make the effort to listen to and support their wife.

Yes, quite. This is a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be extro/introverted.

wellhelloitsme · 24/05/2022 16:50

Lovemypeaceandquiet · 24/05/2022 11:36

So you’re an extrovert and he’s an introvert. You e got different communication styles, but can’t really say his crossing your boundary. You expect him to go against his introvert nature, otherwise you don’t feel he hears you out. I think with some counselling you can work out a communication style that suits both of you.

Eh? I'm an introvert and still value my partner enough to communicate with him especially about things that are important to him.

I don't think being an introvert has anything to do with being open to talking to loved ones, I just wouldn't fancy spending a week talking to anyone as I'd find it draining and I wouldn't fancy having the chat on a stage in front of people as I don't really like being centre of attention.

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