C*nt

[D0lphine]

What would you do if a partner called you a c*nt?

Would you end it there and then? Or would you be ok with an apology.

Depends on context and whether you drop the c-bomb frequently (I'm guessing by the asterisks that you don't!)

"What are you doing that for, you'll break your neck you silly cunt!" - fine if I'm stupidly leaning out of a window or something
"Fuck off you stupid cunt" - not fine and I wouldn't want to be with someone who acted like this during disagreements

What’s the context? I can’t imagine that ever being acceptable but it would be helpful to know what led to it.

I am someone who finds the c word quite offensive, and neither myself nor my husband use it, so if he called me one he'd have to be pretty angry. I'd be pretty upset and I think it would make me question our relationship.

That being said, I think context is all important here as a pp said, and whether it's in your day to day vernacular or not.

Personally I would be upset being called anything at all, makes me so angry when my partner says anything hurtful but when things get heated bound to happen and not worth ending a relationship over it as long as your relationship isn't toxic of course and you get a proper apology. Obviously everyone has their own opinion and if you feel it's genially made you think twice then do what's best for you lovely, hope everything works out how you want

It's not the word it's the context for me.

I'd rather be called a cunt as a joke than something PG rated but the person was genuinely insulting me.

Depends on the situation. We bandy it around quite a lot.

Obviously it depends on what you did wrong but I wouldn’t end a relationship because someone swore at me.

Doesn't matter what we think, in the nicest possible way - is it acceptable to you? We all have completely different boundaries, some would be fine, others wouldn't.

It's okay for you to not be fine with it - you do absolutely need to make it clear to him that you're not okay with it, if that's the case.

Depends if I was being a cunt to be fair.

It's not a word we use. If he said it in jest I wouldn't care. If it was in anger I'd tell him to go fuck himself and when we'd calmed down I'd tell him it was unacceptable.

It's not a dealbreaker for me.

Defo defo not said in jest.

Said in an argument.

I realise I'm biased but I don't think I was being a cnt

We swear a LOT. But DH would never call me a cunt. It's not about whether I'm being one, it's about stepping over a line.

What was the argument and what did he say?

And you don't need the *

We can swear in here.

I really don't know.
It would depend on the specifics.

This is completely individual. We call each other a cunt in jest at time, we have a running joke. But I'd know the difference if he called me one in a certain tone. I don't think I'd be especially more offended than if called me some other names though. We don't tend to resort to name calling.

To be clear it was not in any way shape or form a joke.

It might be helpful to share more details of what was going on.

You clearly want everyone to say he was in the wrong. I think he probably was. It doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks though-it’s obvious you’re unhappy with being treated like that and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to leave.

First time - if he's apologised and agreed it was unacceptable I'd let it go.

Second time - make it clear he's treading on very thin ice.

Third time - I'd leave. Genuinely. Not just because it's the word cunt - I wouldn't stay with someone who thinks it's ok to swear at me and insult me.

The thing is he seems to think it's sort of an "it happens" kind of thing.

Where as I think it's beyond the pale!

Clearly people have very different views so I'm trying to get some perspective.

Clearly people have very different views so I'm trying to get some perspective.

The trouble is, you haven’t shared enough for people to give a reasoned opinion.

This would be completely unacceptable to me and the relationship would be over. Anyone who calls you a cunt in anger has no respect for you and you don’t need any context. My mother wouldn’t call me a cunt. My father wouldn’t. My sister wouldn’t. None of my friends would. I sure as hell wouldn’t accept the person sharing my life to either. I think it’s sad that so many would tolerate being spoken to like that.

If it was said in anger and as an insult it would be the end for me. Name calling in a relationship is a deal breaker for me

Game over I would think. Its contemptuous and I wouldn't want to date someone who feels that way towards me. Let alone someone who was vulgar, cruel and disrespectful enough to speak that way to their partner.

It would be entirely unacceptable to me. We’re fairly sweary, but never at each other. I wouldn’t dream of calling him a vile name, and vice versa.

To me, that's the vilest of words, along with slut. Worse than the others. To think he'd specifically chosen that over others would mean game over for me.

I could probably forgive bitch or cow in a heated argument but not that one.

What was the argument about?