Age range

[ivebeenbumbled]

I'm a couple of weeks away from turning 40, and have recently set up a profile on a dating app. So far, I'm just being nosy and haven't matched with anyone. Just can't seem to take that bold step!

Anyway, I have my preferred age range set between 36 and 42.

Just wondering what others have or would have?

Or, if you are 40, what's the age difference between you and your partner?

Not sure I'm restricting myself too much, but can't really imagine dating someone outside those ranges. 43 and over feels considerably older than me, even though I know it isn't, and my little brother is 35, so that feels really young!

That's very specific. I mean it's completely up to you, but you're very much narrowing your available pool.

I used to go 10 years either side when looking for a LTR.

At your age 10 years either way.

I wouldn't have met my husband if I'd taken your current stance.

Okay, maybe a year two more each way then. Ten each way is definitely out of my comfort zone.

On another note, I'm finding it really weird that people from literally hundreds of miles away are swiping right on me. I have my distance filter set to 25 miles! I would have thought that worked both ways?

I think you need to go ten either side as pp have said. Beware younger though as they may not want anything serious. Your limiting yourself awfully by not going up 10 at least if your looking for something serious. I think it’s well known most men especially in those age groups try to go down age if they can. It would be far better to get a good man who is 50 than a dud man of 40 who is willing to take what he can get.

I'd certainly put it up to at least +/- 7 years. There is an element of truth to the saying that age is just a number. I've known 35 year olds who behave like they're 50, and others who behave like they're 15!

I think some people are actually just willing to travel for the right person. Perhaps they have widened their distance as they are getting no matches close to them.

I'm nearly 42. My husband is 50. Definitely not too big an age range. We have similar interests, both into exercise, like to have a good night out, decent food etc. Only issue is his slightly shitty late 80s taste in music. When everyone knows the 90s were the best.

Im 33 and I usually set mine around 25-35. So similar to you, the majority of men I would find to date will probably be younger than me.

I think in part I do this because I look young for my age and I want to date someone who wouldn't make it look like my dad taking me out xD Also, I don't want kids so I figure it's better to date younger men.

Funnily enough th last two guys I've gone on dates with both had white hair and it was...a bit weird tbh (one had very shot hair in his profile so you couldn't tell. The other I had dated before about a year back a I could have sworn he was still blonde...maybe been a tough year xD). Weird in that I don't feel old enough to be dating men who have gone grey. Not that it was a bad look on them or anything.

I've always preferred younger men though.
I think you fancy what you fancy and that's all there is to it.

I think the 36 is ok, but no more than two years older seems very limiting. I also think I would be the same number of years + or -.

When I used online dating apps I used to set mine to 5 years younger and 10 years older. I was around 34 or 35 at the time and didn't want to date anyone under 30. It is personal preference but the more you restrict the age range the less chance you have of meeting someone. You don't have anything to lose by setting your age range a bit wider as you still only swipe on people that you want to match with.

Also I am now 39 and my partner is 42, so he will be 43 when I am 40.

I'm 42 and mine is 38 to 52

Don’t worry, give it a few more months and your distance will widen and the age range expand…there’s just nothing out there!

Early 40s here and I set mine from 35 - 50. It really depend on the person, some nearly 50 year olds are hot and some 30 year olds aren’t! In my experience it is easy to match with a much younger guy OLD but they usually just want casual.

I did online dating before I met my DH. I set my parameters to five years above and two years below my age. Didn't meet anyone I hit it off with- one very clingy and very nervous man, one who very obviously lied about his height!

Met DH via work. He's 19 years older than me. We'd never have met via online dating. Now been very happily married for well over a decade and with a lovely DD too.

Oh and I'm about the same age as you now!

Distance-wise it really depends where you are. 25 mile radius in a big city will mean loads of people, where I was living fairly rurally when I did OLD that would really only cover the nearest small town so very limiting.

When I was on dating apps I had my ages set at 27-40 (was 31 at the time) didn't want to go too young but was happier to go older. My now partner is only a year older than me. If you match you match and I'd try not to get too hung up on age.
Best of luck with it all :)

You might find you widen it once you're a little more comfortable at dating. Maybe not 🤷🏽‍♀️
Don't forget, you're only going for a drink with them and not committing to anything so you've nothing to lose by widening the search.

I'm 42. I have always disliked anyone younger than me and prefer an older man (as well as older friends in general). If I was dating I would chose 40-53. Although admittedly I might be reluctant to even dip down to 40

I'm 40 this year and mine is set to 25-45, most over 40 though are just not my type.

I've now gone to 34-43. And yes, as PP said, that may creep further depending on how I go!

At 41 i met dh. He was 31...irl though.

You do they mostly lie about age online, younger guys pretend to be older, older guys put a lower number

I have looked at some of the ones claiming to be my age and thinking "Really? Because you don't look ages with the late 30's guys I know!"

@ivebeenbumbled just have fun, there are a few gems out there, but don't take it too seriously and be skeptical about what people tell you, talk on the phone, video chat before meeting, good luck, it does work

I'm 51 and met partner of year and a half on Tinder.
I had 30 to 50 in mine, I had very few matches over 40, out of 1700 matches probably 75% were under 40.
DP is 32 and we get on great.