Pre nup- long term partner

[Newpjamas]

How would you feel if your partner of 18 years & 2 kids said they will marry you as long as they can sort a pre nup?
he is the bigger earner 70k and owns the house where i am on a lower wage 12k

In the UK, I would marry him, divorce him and then wish him good luck getting a prenup to stand in court while trying to continue earning £70k a year with 50/50 childcare and spousal maintenance payments.

@DelilahBucket

Gee wonder why he won’t marry?

Well he can't have it both ways. She's working part time while raising his kids so he can have the successful career. In hindsight the OP should never have moved in to a house only he owns and then have kids with this idiot without getting married first, but hindsight is wonderful. I mean seriously, who wants their kids out on the street just so their wife can't have a claim on the house and money in the event of a divorce, because let's face facts, he isn't going to want full custody now is he.

@DelilahBucket

I meant why in the hell would he marry when multiple posters have been saying they would marry him then divorce him - and in your case try to get spousal maintenance from him.

And who says he doesn’t want his wife to have the house - she already has it, she lives there - your the one talking divorce and OP is the one talking marriage after so long. Seems more like divorce is on everyone’s mind but his. And he may well want full custody if he could get it.

Seems he had it right if this attitude is common and despite what you say, he can have it both ways.

He can have it both ways.
He does now.

Because women like the OP have given it to them, & been told a lie that marriage is outdated and unnecessary.

Men are being given everything: children, family, career progression,without the deal of sharing it with and protecting women.

That deal is called marriage.

Liberal feminism has screwed women with some ridiculous ideas of what liberation is.

Yes he can. Don't marry her. Bit to late for her to start making demands now

He’s thinking about money and protecting his finances rather than the love and trust that comes with 18 years together? he’s thinking about splitting and you fleecing him, rather than celebrating your commitment.
I would be really upset by this
i assume he doesn’t want to get married and never has and you’ve been persuading him and he’s come up with this?

@Ziggazagga

You could easily say “she’s thinking about money and protecting her finances rather than the love and trust that comes with 18 years together” - because she is the one pushing for a change in financial law surrounding them - seems like she’s the one thinking about splitting otherwise why the need to marry after so long?

As usual just making bits up.

how do you know she changed her mind and is thinking of leaving?

“Liberal feminism has screwed women with some ridiculous ideas of what liberation is.”

Yep, a massive own goal, with children you need to be married if you want any security. Men are getting far too savvy, because they can get away with it.

Look I know this is outing but this thread mainly consisted of two highly intelligent people having a very logical debate I L9VE MUMSnet. I think the two debating posters should consider marriage your kids would be little stoics standing at the agora.

I'm team tamzo I really agree and I'm deff getting a prenup.

But I think we are missing some of the story it makes no sense.

But also he really is taking the mick.