Mental abuse?

[mumof2g1rls]

Struggling right now with my relationship, everything seems to be my fault, I want to leave this relationship but I just need to find the courage so I find writing on here helps. Here's just a few things that have happened this week

-text me when he was out to say he was going to shop once football was finished and asked if I wanted anything, I said if your going then yeah get me a packet of crisps, he comes home with my card saying 'your fucking card declined twice, you've totally embarrassed me you prick, I was doing you a favour and you embarrass me like that, go to the fucking shop yourself' - there was money on my card so I said i don't know why it's declined and he was well it's your fault cause it's your fucking card isn't it

-asked me yesterday to call sky because the Wi-Fi was disconnecting and reconnecting, so I called and they performed a reset of the router and something to do with the lines, they've said if it happens again to do a manual reset and it should work. Today he's playing fifa downstairs going mental because the Wi-Fi playing up and he's lost a game from signal and is shouting to me saying 'you need to actually do something about this, do what I say for once and fucking call them, clearly you did fuck all yesterday when I asked, it's embarrassing'

-he came home from work and I asked if he could please watch the baby so I could finish cleaning the bathroom as it had taken me nearly all day to get anything done as baby was being clingy and he said 'I'm just home from work, let me chill instead, why do you always have to do cleaning just fucking leave it, I want to play fifa' - I get really stressed and upset and overwhelmed when there's too much house work to do and he knows that but never helps and makes it seem like I'm completely unreasonable for wanting to keep a clean home and keeping on-top of jobs

There's far much more than this, but this is just this week, I feel like I'm constantly walking on egg shells on what's gonna piss him off or if he's coming home in a bad mood, nothing I ever do seems to be good enough

Try not to let on what you're planning to do. I don't want to scare you but it may make him nasty. Or the opposite, he'll apologise be all nice for a while, talk you onto staying then back to his old habits.
It's good that you've open up to your sister but your next step needs to be speaking with women's aid for some real advice.
I hope you're able to get out of this soon. You and DC deserve much better.

I'm glad you've spoken to your sister OP.

Keep talking it helps!

Find your anger OP, I’m livid just reading this. How DARE he speak to you in that way!! Talk to Women’s Aid and then he’s out. Forever. He gets his shit out of your place and liaises with you via solicitors until he learns some respect. Hate to say it but I can see his behaviour getting worse if you stayed with him.

He's woken up today in a god awful mood so again I'm in the firing line today, he's taken our eldest to school because he starts work at 9.30 so dropping her off on the way, he's been shouting at me from downstairs asking why I've not got any of her snacks out ready when I've been dealing with an explosive morning nappy🥲 Said 'it's not difficult, don't know why you can't just get this shit ready we're going to be late now cause of you', her water was in the fridge ready and she has a banana and a packet of biscuits too so very easy snacks to literally just grab, takes two seconds if even that. I'm waiting until I know he's defo at work and then calling woman's aid, I can't be bothered with this

Good for you OP. No one gets to treat you like this.

That sounds horrible OP, I’m sorry. Keep to the plan - call them. He hasn’t earned the right to be your DP and your girls shouldn’t have to be exposed to him talking to their mum like that.

Be strong - you can do this and soon it’ll be blissful relief you don’t have to wake up and listen to that dickwad.

I'm relieved to read your latest post. You deserve so much better!

You're not married, he's not on the lease/mortgage, he adds nothing emotionally, financially or mentally to your life... honestly, I'd be suggesting that while he's at work, pack his bags, get the locks changed then text him to tell him the relationship is over and that you've left his stuff at his mum's/friend/whatever.

I'm always having to ask my son to stop playing FIFA and help out with jobs.

But he is only 10 years old!

My word he sounds awful! Your piiir DD having to be in this environment of Daddy speaking to you with absolutely no respect at all.

Please leave him & teach your DD what not to put up with. You both deserve so much better😢

How are you op x

He sounds awful! Your best option is to Leave! Leave!Leave!