Dating in 50s

[50sdating]

I'm in my early 50s and have been on a few dating apps. During my 40s I went on lots of dates and there were a few men I clicked with and wanted to see again.

This time round it seems a bit depressing. Men who are my age who I think look attractive don't seem to be interested. I'm assuming they are going for younger attractive women. I have been chatting to men in their late 40s but it just seems to be all chat.

I went on Tinder and reported a couple of men with nude photos!

I'm beginning to think I'm perhaps meant to be single or the 50s aren't a good time to date. Anyone else finding this?

Strange bunch of activities there in my eyes 😅 whatever happened to just going for a nice walk 🤣🤣
As for the wedding ring brigade they're just chancers sweetie and best avoided as you obviously do.

Register across a few websites as different ones are geared for different people. Don’t discount MeetUp though - my cousins have met some amazing men through normal social activities unrelated to online dating. Ie walking, hiking, climbing groups.

I’m in my 50s and have really enjoyed online dating. Yes there’s loads of idiots on there, but you only need to meet one good one!

This may sound a bit simple but you can meet someone anywhere you can chat,even this place has the facility for private chat to exchange messages etc so to me it's all about taking part really and being yourself

Sorry Michael, I would say that every time there is a post lamenting abt OLD, there's a guy on it saying how hard it is for men too, how they are nice etc and don't meet anyone. I felt it a bit unnecessary when you explained the colour of your hair, eyes etc... don't blame you for not wishing to waste an opportunity...but you might as well say "Message Me!"

And tbh you sound a bit cynical and obviously once bitten twice shy my dear no offence,and tbh if I wanted anyone to message me I'd just say it plainly that my inbox is open for friendly chats,I've nothing to hide 😂 but thanks for your input sweetheart

Ps what I look like roughly was just to show I'm normal,nothing special,no tattoos,no beard etc that's all......you interested?😉🤣🤣

Could have done without the sexist patronisation of ‘sweetheart’ there. The poster you are responding to managed not to do that to you in her post, after all.

Does seem like you don’t need to scratch that far beneath the surface of these self-defined ‘nice’ men…

Oh, and the ‘my dear’. 🙄

And I could do without the blatant feminist standard answer to anything I've said.....I thought the laughing emojis gave away the humour...obviously not 🤦🏼‍♂️

Does seem like you don’t need to scratch that far beneath the surface of these self-defined ‘nice’ men…

Ps go read my initial post,I never once said I was a self defined "nice guy" ......

Anyhoooo ladies,if anyone has any ideas what app/site they prefer let me know,I find most now want cash for features and I'm not being tight but why should I have to pay to even send a message?

Well you’re certainly not. Just the bog standard type of bloke who resorts to sexist insults as soon as a woman says something he doesn’t like. I’m sure we’ve all come across your type on OLD. And it is a definite type.

Ah, the old ‘haven’t you got a sense of humour’ ‘ I was only joking’ when women object to sexist insults. Could you be more of a stereotype?

Oh and of course using ‘feminist’ as an insult..

If you define sexist insults as "sweetheart" and "my dear" I give up,big chip on your shoulder is all I see from you but I'll be the bigger person and move along...

What I find funny is the actual person I called sweetheart and my dear to hasn't said a thing about it,only you....says a lot

Well partly because my internet was down and I felt the others made the point. I do wonder why you're on MN, it's definitely interesting to hear a male perspective and some men do want to understand issues that impact women in their lives but I honestly haven't come across a male poster who is quite so hostile...

Actually, I'd lose interest in anyone who said, "My dear" or called me 'sweetheart' in that manner too.

'My dear' is only ever patronising and sweetheart is what I call the 5 year olds I teach.

In response to your initial post, I was interested to read your experiences. I have a couple of 50something male friends doing online dating. They've not had your experiences re women wanting Love Island clones!

One is aggrieved that women in their 20s only want a 50something man if they're getting something in return (eg a hot body or a fat bank balance) the other suffers from ED and feels a bit intimidated by what he perceives as sexually adventurous 50something women who've left dull marriages.

Most women want someone who is kind, has a good work ethic, knows how to behave in company, good manners and integrity. Beyond that, its interests, personality, common ground and chemistry that matter.

oh and my partner is 59 and he's not once called me 'my dear', 'sweetheart, nor used 'feminist' as an insult. Maybe that's why he's not single.

Hostile?because I stand my ground against an obvious man hater?🤦🏼‍♂️
Actually I came on to look at the ADP payment in Scotland thread and saw this one to see what folk are saying about dating at our age,no offence was aimed at you at all and I apologise if sweetheart or my dear if provocative to you but the other person is just looking for an argument imo and I'm not here for that

Yeah, you just haven’t been.

Hostile?because I stand my ground against an obvious man hater?🤦🏼‍♂️

That actually made laugh out loud. Ok, I get it now! You are clearly playing some sort of buzz word bingo, playing the character of That Guy on OLD. No real human could hit that many cliches in so few posts.

Well played. I doff my cap to you sir.

🤣👍🏻

They walk amongst us 🤦🏻‍♀️ , this is why I’ll probably be single forever 🙄