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Jayted · 25/04/2022 22:01

I have been with a partner for 7 years (not sons dad), he has always been unfaithful throughout the whole time on dating sites. Sadly my self esteem has always been too low to get rid. 4 years ago I got a non molestation order against him as a row over infidelity turned violent. Stupidly I took him back after it. Because there are children the police informed social services and I got the most horrendous social worker who basically tore me apart for things such as being one week overdue for the boys yearly eye test. She also visited my mum and dad and the boys dad. Needless to say this was very stressful all round. My dad passed away from cancer last year and my mum is in an awful state. There has not been any violence recently but I want my partner gone, if I ask him to, I get threats such as I will wreck your car, phone your work, ‘put me in a box’ etc. I want him gone but I cannot cope with ringing the police and having social services involved after the horrendous time last time. I cannot put my mum through that atm. I have phoned the people who I rent my home from and they cannot help.I alone am on the tenancy agreement, he is not. I have tried womens aid but am always waiting over an hour on the phone and I have to hang up. I’m at a total loss what to do and the only way out seems to be taking my life. I cannot cope with living like this anymore yet I cannot have them involved, they ripped me to shreds, went to my gp, found I was on antidepressants and questioned my ability to look after the boys with the depression, also they went to the boys dad and told him all my business and the boys school. Please offer any help or advice without judgement

YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 26/04/2022 17:27

Hello @Jayted - we're so sorry to hear what you're going through. Please know that there is help and support out there for you. Please give Refuge a call when it's safe to do so - they have a free, 24-hour helpline.

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