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Tattoo turn off?

149 replies

Brimmingfirebox · 22/04/2022 14:17

Long time no type?!

Would someone’s tattoos change your attraction to them?

Should what you perceive to be ‘bad’ or ‘tacky’ tattoo’s be a deal breaker?

Went on a first date, got on really well. Went on a second date, got on really well but noticed some tattoo’s which I find a bit tacky and well…shit.

Does this bother people? I know it’s each to their own but on the whole, how much would it bother you if you were dating someone with crap tattoos😂

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PermanentTemporary · 22/04/2022 18:10

Depends. My bf has 2 small ones at his collarbone and I love them both. They're about heritage but not in a Britain First kind of way. But I did once have a casual hookup with a guy who was covered in really shitty festivaly kind of tattoos and I just thought they looked terrible. It didn't affect my decision not to see him again but they were unattractive.

1FootInTheRave · 22/04/2022 18:11

I love tattoos.

However, I hate feminine hands on a man so would never date someone with them.

Suppose it's up to you if you can get past them.

Vikinga · 22/04/2022 18:16

I don't like tattoos but it wouldn't affect my feelings for him. Not sure I could live with facial/neck tattoos though.

But the type of men who have them in my generation aren't the type of men I go for anyway. Noone I've ever dated or been with has tattoos.

seensome · 22/04/2022 18:21

I don't mind tattoos but a couple of guys I've dated in the past had their ex's name tattooed on them, it did give me the ick.

Favourodds · 22/04/2022 18:22

My last ex had some crap tattoos, and it just made her seem a bit tacky 😂which to be honest, I liked, because she was intimidatingly beautiful and this kind of knocked her off the pedestal.

Another ex had a crappy star tattoo on the back of her neck, and to be honest, it just made her seem stupid, but I already thought she was a bit lacking in intelligence. So in that case, it negatively impacted my opinion of her, but it wasn't a dealbreaker.

Pleased they got away from you. Hope they're happy now.

gannett · 22/04/2022 18:26

Got nothing against tattoos in general. Plenty of beautiful and meaningful ones out there that wouldn't turn me off a man at all. Plenty of terrible or cliched ones that would.

TwoBigNoisyBoys · 22/04/2022 18:32

I like tattoos if they’re nice, but I don’t have any, in fact I’m the only one on my family that doesn’t! My sisters, nephews, nieces and eldest son all have them, and my nephew is a tattoo artist. The ones all my family have are all nice ones, and very varied. So I’m probably very unreasonable when I say once dated someone one for a couple of months who had absolutely awful tattoos…a heart with his ex wife’s name through it, a cartoon bulldog, a tribal stamp, a flying bird amongst others. All just dotted around his body. The worst was a little cartoon bird on his shin, which you could see when he wore 3/4 shorts in the summer…I feel awful saying it but they were so terrible they really were a huge turn off 🙈

balalake · 22/04/2022 18:52

Good tattoos are rare in my opinion. It would be a turn off for me if they are bad, as you don't have a relationship of any note or length without them being seen.

Antarcticant · 22/04/2022 18:54

There would have to be a good reason for them, for me not to be put off.

BellaTheDarkOverlord · 22/04/2022 18:58

When I met dh he had song lyrics on his arm of his and his ex's favourite song. Was spelt wrong too 😂5 years later he decided to have it covered by a sleeve tattoo instead. Never put me off. Only turn off would probably be something like a swastika.

Ops1 · 22/04/2022 19:01

GregBrawlsInDogJail · 22/04/2022 14:23

I mean, it depends if we're talking, like, the name of an ex or some stupid motivational phrase, or a swastika or full back piece of a wolf wrestling a skeleton atop a motorbike.

If I otherwise really liked him the former wouldn't bother me too much, many people do stupid shit in their youth.

Exactly what I was going to say
only a swastika or similar racist implied tats would put me off

Libertaire · 22/04/2022 19:04

Do I like tattoos and would I ever have one? No, and absolutely definitely not.

Do I find them off-putting? Yes. And chavvy.

Would a potential partner’s tattoos be a deal breaker? No, unless they couldn’t be covered up or were something ghastly like a swastika.

jewishmum · 22/04/2022 19:07

My husband has the date of his first marriage on his shoulder. I didn't know till after I married him. It wouldn't have made me not marry him though because I already knew he was an idiot when we dated.

Phrenologistsfinger · 22/04/2022 19:08

TeeBee · 22/04/2022 14:19

I find all tatoos a complete turn-off so I wouldn't date anyone with tatoos, let alone crap ones.

100%

Sunnytwobridges · 22/04/2022 19:22

I love tatts so I would be good with them as long as they aren't on the face or neck. And as long as they aren't of something stupid.

I don't like long hair on men and would be a turnoff, but some women love it. It's superficial but we like what we like so it doesn't matter what anyone likes. If it bothers you then that's all that matters.

Crazykatie · 22/04/2022 19:29

No tattoos for me, a real turn off, beards too but then I’ve always been very choosy about men.

BiscuitLover3678 · 22/04/2022 19:31

You need to tell us op! It’s cosmetic so if a bit silly I wouldn’t mind, just like if they wore something I didn’t love. Depends how bad.

offensive is different

dustofneptune · 22/04/2022 19:35

@Favourodds "Pleased they got away from you. Hope they're happy now."

Am I a bad person for thinking what I thought?

Knutface · 22/04/2022 19:36

I don’t like tattoos but my FWB is heavily tattooed and I don’t find it a turn off or anything. As long as the tattoos are not on neck/face/hands, dating someone tattooed would not bother me.

MayorDusty · 22/04/2022 19:39

jewishmum · 22/04/2022 19:07

My husband has the date of his first marriage on his shoulder. I didn't know till after I married him. It wouldn't have made me not marry him though because I already knew he was an idiot when we dated.

How did you not know? Did you think it was a reminder to return his library books?

UhtredsLatestPaganHussy · 22/04/2022 19:46

She may not have seen him in his nuddy glory until their wedding night.

EleanorDeCleaner · 22/04/2022 19:48

Blimey, so much hate for tattoos! I can't imagine caring one way or another, as long as it wasn't a swastika or similar in a visible place.

My DH never had any interest in tattoos and then after 20 years together, randomly got a small tribal thing done on his bicep. I quite like it, and now I barely notice it. It hasn't changed him as a person?

Favourodds · 22/04/2022 20:01

EleanorDeCleaner · 22/04/2022 19:48

Blimey, so much hate for tattoos! I can't imagine caring one way or another, as long as it wasn't a swastika or similar in a visible place.

My DH never had any interest in tattoos and then after 20 years together, randomly got a small tribal thing done on his bicep. I quite like it, and now I barely notice it. It hasn't changed him as a person?

Mumsnet, innit.

ShandaLear · 22/04/2022 20:33

It depends. A tasteful small butterfly or apple on a shoulder blade wouldn’t bother me too much, but ARSENAL ARE THE BEST all over his arse and neck wouldn’t do it for me.

UhtredsLatestPaganHussy · 22/04/2022 20:35

Tbf if there's one football team suited for the arse it's Arsenal.

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