Boyfriend’s ex is stunning

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Hi all

My boyfriends ex was a really nasty girl. Very very abusive. Some of the stories he tells me about her baffles me. I’ve seen her social media and she doesn’t seem particularly pleasant.

However, she’s absolutely stunning. She wears a lot of make up but does it very well. Eyelash extensions, hair extensions, full face of make up, the lot. I know it doesn’t make up for her awful personality but she’s one of these girls who gets loads of likes, takes these videos of her and she looks incredible. Short dresses, gets lots of attention.

I’m very natural, never got much attention. I have awful thin eyebrows that I have to draw in, short thin gappy hair, really bad at doing make up. I just feel so bloody ugly compared to her and I keep looking at her social media. I know I should block her.

Boyfriend tells me she’s horrible and fake but part of me tells me he must have liked it before and if that’s his type then I have no chance. Honestly I’m so so envious of how pretty she is.

How can I get past this??

Is she actually stunning without make up & filters though?

Even if she is, personally triumphs over looks

Personality

I don't really understand what you've got to "get past". (1) she is his EX (2) she's not very nice. Has he given you reason to think he's about to go back to her or something? Otherwise why be so worried about her looks.

Maybe she is beautiful, maybe she isn’t.
I’m too old to be of the fake x,y and z brigade but I’m telling you if I wanted to I could still get attention- and I’ve got plenty of grey hair.
Thing is - I don’t give a shiny shit about being attractive. Never had. I’m a pretty upbeat person- even with ptsd and depression (I was fairly hyper happy before life sucked). I’m sure that’s the attraction for men. They might want about short skirt and side boob but it gets dull.. like everything else.
On the other hand, as do many have said.. watch the “she was so abusive” guff. It’s a red flag

In fairness I probably made it sound worse than it is. He doesn’t constantly talk about her and slag her off, but when we met we obviously swapped stories about exes and some of the stories he told me about her drew me to my own conclusions 😂. I also know a few people who went to school with her and they said she’s loopy too and bullied people at school lol.

I know a personality is so much more important but I do think I look nothing like these pretty girls. I can’t take a good selfie because my skin is horrible and I have acne scars, I just never look nice compared to these people.

I guess I got him for a reason though…

Thanks all! Love the Roald Dahl quote!!