Me and my boyfriend have started to bicker a little after being together less than a year. Get on well for the majority just a couple of silly things we are starting to argue about.
Sat down at the weekend to talk about it so we can fix it and get back on track.
Spoke about both putting in effort, making time for each other as well as respecting each others need for down time etc.
Don't live together and don't see much of each other with work schedules.
He mentioned in the chat that i don't keep him on his toes enough. He's been independent since 18 (now 30s) although had had relationships previously and has lived with exs they gave each other space. The exs use to have busy social lives/went solo travelling a lot etc so they were never on top of each other and he had enough space to himself.
I try to act like the caring girlfriend and in general am just a nice person all round i like to think. When he had covid made and delivered a care package, hapy to cook him tea after work on the days we can see each other. Always make the effort to dress up, make time in my schedule to see him (although granted my social life is none existent), plan ahead for little things like getting him a gift or easter egg etc. Good attentive host when he comes round, always on hand with paracetamol/tissues etc as I'm prepared. He says this is too nice and hes not use to it. Hes use to being treated mean, having more time on his own, being independent, treated like crap (hes had exs hit him and treat like shit basically) so hes not use to the niceness.
So to keep him interested and get that spark back we once had, how do i keep him on his toes? Any advice?