Not Knowing You Was In An Open relationship!!

[Wintertime1973]

Hi All,

Been with my partner of 15 months due to circumstances we see each other once a week, whilst we had not had the conversation I presumed we where exclusive to each other, we loved each other, great intimacy and a great connection.
Fast forward to now I find out I have a STD ( very painful ) and I have not slept around.
Turns out he's been having sex with more than one other women ( three of us all together) and all this as been unprotected!
Informed me that he wants an open relationship and doesn't know why he didn't tell me, sounds like the other women are FWB.
For Christ sake he's over 75!!!

Why does it feel so hurtful and what do I do?

You're 48????? Bloody hell OP why are you sleeping with someone more than old enough to have fathered you? Hellooooo.... you have MUCH younger options? Is there something super appealing about him......? I feel sick.

Hello op I volunteered in a sexaul health clinic for a couple of years in my experience the STD can be incubating in you or him for you to 24 mouths so it doesn't mean your DP passed it on to you

Update for anyone who is interested- at 78 he as three women on the go ( which was including me ) and he can do all this because he's taking viagra!!

Anyway at the moment I feel like I never want sex again nor look at a man, obviously this will eventually pass...., but going forward I will always use protection, have the exclusive chat and not let me guard down.

Good plan OP.

Avoiding men is always a good plan IME!