Give ex the new address?

[Jumpking]

Things between my ex and I are acrimonious.

I'm moving to my forever home next month and I want him nowhere near it. He will insist he must have the address, as he has every right to know where his children (age 17 & 15) are living.

17 yr old is happy to meet him/be dropped off at a local bus stop for his twice weekly visits. 15yr old has only seen him twice since August. Both understand my reasons for not giving him the address, as they've seen my visceral reaction to his head leaning into my home.

I don't want ex at my front door peering in my
new home, nor parking on my drive, or strutting on my path, as he has been when collecting the 17 yr old from the rental we've been living in, since he kicked the 3 of us out of the family home.

Does he need to know where his children are living? He insisted he did with this rental, and I really wish I'd never told him.

No he doesn't
Make your new house your safe space.

At their ages I doubt there is a court order (?) no? Then he can whistle.
I had to tell exh but we were mid cao.
The weirdo followed the removal can anyway!!.

Are the kids at the same school? He's just gonna follow them home from school.

No court order, no.

I know he'll likely find out in time, but I want to set the line in the sand from day 1.

He implied it would be to the children's detriment if I didn't tell him the rental address.

Wasn't sure of the legal perspective.

Ime he has no right to know.
Just a chancer of which I am sure you are well aware.!!

I think as long as he has a contact number for you or you children then he has no legal right to know your address.

As expected, he's not happy I'm not giving him the new address.

"I will be requiring you to abide by the law (aka the children's act interpretation he quotes earlier in the very long email) and provide the address so that I can maintain full contact with them and for use in case of any emergencies...I am advised to tell you
that in the event of you continuing to be unreasonable that I should then be proceeding to ask the court to issue a "Section 33 Family Act 1986" enquiry to locate the children."

I understand this section 33 to be in regard to "missing children". They're not missing. They're in school/college. He has their phone numbers and messages them infrequently. They don't message back much. He sees his son twice a week.

He reckons he's taken legal advice...

Any thoughts or experience please MNers?

I’m going through this at the moment, he legally has a right to know where his children reside, if he wants the address he’ll have to take you to court to force you to give it.

Just as a side note I am not giving my ex my new address! He can take me to court, waste his own money!

yeah let him take you to court. And if you are ordered to tell him and he comes round causing trouble, you will be fully vindicated in why you didn't want him to have the address, you can use it against him.

Let him take you to court.

Tell him to get stuffed, he's just trying to call the shots. X

He's full of shit. Ignore him.

Ignore him. You’re children are aged 17 & 15, he had regular contact with both, he knows where they go to school, he has contact details for both his children and a means to contact them directly.

he has no right to know where you live.

ex tried this, he called CMS to ask them my new address🙄

Just message back "ok" and leave hom to it.

Leave him to it.
He has your number and both the children’s numbers. Can contact them via phone, text, email so he doesn’t need an address.
If the children agree with you that gives more strength to your side.

Does he need to even contact you, given the dcs’ ages? Sure he can organise contact directly with them? If the dc are compliant, there is no need for him to have your address.

This!

Do you know if his solicitor is real or imaginary?

He has both the childrens' mobile numbers so he can contact them when he wishes. Don't give him your number. It is intrusive and unnecessary. He does not need your address. Arrange for him to drop children back to bus station so they can bus home or you can collect them.

Why does it matter?

Check your kids phones for any location sharing and get a ring doorbell so that if the twat does turn up you have a record of it.

Remember a solicitor will write to you quoting /threatening all sorts of crap. Until a judge orders something you ignore and file it away...

He does organise contact directly with them. No need for me to be in the loop.

The 15yr old doesn't see him at all...her choice. He rarely messages her now, as she doesn't reply.

The 17yr old sees him twice a week for dinner.

Neither have overnighted at his since Oct 2020 as they don't want to.

I was forced to tell my ex my new address (kids 14/16). We were in court for finances, my solicitor told me it was best to disclose before the judge forced me. He’s never had the kids, has no contact with them, but I had to tell him where they lived. He didn’t have to do the same.