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One sister announcing pregnancy just before the other's wedding

74 replies

gwilt · 08/04/2022 17:14

I am not either sister in this scenario and none of this particularly bothers me - I'm more interested in the etiquette of the situation.

Sister 1 is getting married this weekend.

Sister 2 has just announced her first pregnancy today. She's also getting married in a few months' time. She hasn't had any issues conceiving or anything like that. In fact, as far as we knew, she didn't want children. So it's come out of the blue.

Sister 1 has children so that isn't the issue.

It's more like - is this a mean thing to do?

Should Sister 2 have waited until after Sister 1's wedding to announce her pregnancy? Is this a way of explaining why she won't be drinking at the wedding? Something else?

OP posts:

Riapia · 08/04/2022 19:04

Did she ‘announce ‘ it on the local radio station.
Maybe she hired a loudspeaker van and toured the local area shouting that’s pissed on your dips sis.

Or perhaps she just mentioned it to family members. Just low key?

xfgdhfgnhkk007 · 08/04/2022 19:10

Well, does sister 1 have a problem with this? Because if she doesn't then are you stirring?

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 08/04/2022 19:29

I can't see what the issue would be

334bu · 08/04/2022 19:32

What's the problem?

totallyoutnumbered · 08/04/2022 19:41

Really not even a thing in my book. People are so precious it's weird 🙄

VyeBrator · 08/04/2022 19:44

OMG who cares? Woman gets pregnant, another woman gets married. If they're family or friends you're going to be pleased for them both.

Like others, I really don't see an issue?

thehistorymum · 08/04/2022 19:52

Congratulations to both sisters!

PurpleDaisies · 08/04/2022 20:06

No opinions on what people have posted @gwilt?

Emmelina · 08/04/2022 23:25

It’s probably so nobody pushes her to drink on the day and she has to let it out then. That would be a far worse time!

saraclara · 08/04/2022 23:28

Not an issue at all. It doesn't detract from the wedding in the slightest. What would take attention away from the bride would be her guests spending the day speculating as to why her sister wasn't joining in the champagne toast, or drinking at the evening do.

ThatPosterIsSoRight · 08/04/2022 23:32

I would have been over the moon if my DSis had announced a pregnancy at any time, even better 2 days before my wedding - more joy to share.

SoftSheen · 08/04/2022 23:38

Total non-issue. If anything, will add to the general happiness of the wedding day.

LightDrizzle · 08/04/2022 23:47

Yes; Christmas, birthdays and weddings are really tricky to negotiate without people guessing you are pregnant if you aren’t usually teetotal.

It’s the obvious move. Better than her batting of questions on the day and it being a topic of excited conjecture.

GrandTheftWalrus · 08/04/2022 23:59

The night before my ex sil wedding the other sil announced she was pregnant.

The one getting married was the youngest child, only daughter etc so lots of excitement around it etc. Then the middles son wife announced the day before. Surely she could've waited 48hrs.

LegallyBlende · 09/04/2022 00:07

I was going to a wedding when the bride's sister announced she was pregnant just a few days before the wedding. To be honest, I did wonder why she didn't wait until after...until I saw her! She had a obvious bump so it would have been worse to say nothing.

BottleBrushTree · 09/04/2022 00:08

It’s a non issue. People get married or pregnant all the time, so what.

MissMaple82 · 09/04/2022 00:23

How is it a mean thing to do! She can announcement her pregnancy whenever she wants!

pinkyredrose · 09/04/2022 00:24

Sorry what is the problem exactly?

TheDuchessOfBeddington · 09/04/2022 00:38

I just love wedding and any sort of happy announcements. So I personally wouldn’t be pissed off if my sister said she was pregnant at my wedding. If anything it would enhance the occasion!

LosingMySh1t · 09/04/2022 00:47

If it was my sisters wedding I would have to tell people I was pregnant before.

It would be plainly obvious if I wasn't drinking that I was pregnant. It's better to let people know beforehand and then there is no whispering and possible over shadowing on the day.

ConfusedByDesign · 09/04/2022 01:17

Why would anyone even make an issue if this? This is a really bizarre take on things.

AnnesBrokenSlate · 09/04/2022 01:41

Total non-issue and as PPs have said it was probably to stop people asking about the lack of drinking at the wedding and then guessing. Some of my relatives guessed I was pregnant because I wasn't drinking at a big family birthday party. I wouldn't want that to happen at a wedding and pull any kind of focus.

autienotnaughty · 09/04/2022 02:58

Announcing on the wedding day would BU as it's the bride and grooms day, other than that I can't see a problem.

TurningUpMyStereotype · 09/04/2022 03:10

I don’t understand why this would be a problem. Do people getting married need the whole week, month, year to be about them? Self indulgent, me, me, me crap. It’s a wedding, important to the bride and groom but for everyone else it’s not theIt main priority and their lives continue. Hopefully the sister getting married is happy for her sister.

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