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I went to see a Medium/Clairvoyant

64 replies

Freddie15VES · 07/04/2022 20:48

Long story short - I went with my mum. She had always wanted a reading and wouldn’t have one without me. So I thought f*ck it.

The lady was fairly spot on with some things, but she then proceeded to tell me that I would get divorced, have a separation, can’t have anymore kids, that I should also be checking my partners phone as ‘there’s something he’s not telling me’ and that he lies to me

I am overly paranoid now. Like everything he says or does I think ‘could he be cheating’

This is driving me mad!!!

OP posts:
Turefu · 08/04/2022 07:23

@Eatprayrun

If he is cheating it might be so he can find a woman who is less gullible and doesn’t waste her money and time on psychic nonsense?
That’s really horrible comment. Blame the victim. I believe they’re people , who can see future or situations. It’s a talent . Long time ago people laughed when someone suggested illness is caused by germs: because they couldn’t see them. There’re no tools, ways to see them, understand them, so theory was called bullshit. Maybe now we haven’t got tools to see future, read minds. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible . People with talent can do that. Having said that , no respectable psychic says things like: “you’ll get divorced , you won’t have children , you’ll be bankrupt , you’ll be homeless”, so on. It is normal kindness and sometimes is possible to avoid the worst depending on decisions we make.
Anniegetyourgun · 08/04/2022 07:48

Maybe now we haven’t got tools to see future, read minds. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible . People with talent can do that.

Whether or not this is the case - and I'm certainly not ruling it out - I think it's safe enough to say the majority of people who set themselves up as psychics don't have anything of the sort. As someone said upthread, you can read explanations by the likes of Derren Brown, and the late, multi-talented Orson Welles, of how it is done. People believe it more because they want to than because the evidence backs it up.

Why don't I rule out psychic ability, you ask? My dad could be astonishingly spooky at times (but by no means reliably so, nor could he switch it on to order). He was also, or claimed to be, quite a cynic. But he went to a medium shortly after my mother died, and seemed quite impressed by her. Among other things she said he would not die in the country of his birth. Well, he did. That's a fairly major thing to have got wrong, but not one where there can be any comeback on the medium for a failed prediction, on account of the customer being dead...

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Freddie15VES · 08/04/2022 09:50

@Turefu I thought this also but didn’t say anything 😂 bit harsh really!

I went with my mum as she’s lost a very very close friend to cancer recently and she was really struggling to get closure on it. It’s something that she wanted to do, so I accompanied her

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merrilysang · 08/04/2022 10:04

They're good at reading people. Derren Brown, if anyone remembers him, did similar, to show it could be done.

They can't tell the future.

A relative of mine went for a reading after a death in our family. I was (privately) quite annoyed by it as they'd talked about how 'he' was there.

EmmaH2022 · 08/04/2022 10:23

@merrilysang

They're good at reading people. Derren Brown, if anyone remembers him, did similar, to show it could be done.

They can't tell the future.

A relative of mine went for a reading after a death in our family. I was (privately) quite annoyed by it as they'd talked about how 'he' was there.

I watched that one It was definitely how to spot the charlatan but you're not meant to take those people seriously.

I don't think many people can be that good but there's maybe three on the earth who know stuff!

EmmaH2022 · 08/04/2022 10:25

[quote Freddie15VES]@Turefu I thought this also but didn’t say anything 😂 bit harsh really!

I went with my mum as she’s lost a very very close friend to cancer recently and she was really struggling to get closure on it. It’s something that she wanted to do, so I accompanied her[/quote]
I'm so sorry, losing a friend is just 😭

Mum wanted to go after her sister died. I said no way would I accompany her. Going at a vulnerable time, ooh, I dunno. You'd have to know them already, I think.

girlmom21 · 08/04/2022 10:28

They rely on your insecurities and sensitivities.

She'll have seen your wedding ring. She'll have planted that seed in the hope you'll return for 'guidance'.

totallyoutnumbered · 08/04/2022 10:56

Utter charlatans. Totally prey on the vulnerable. My close friend confided that she'd been to see one who knew so much that she couldn't possibly know. This medium had only to spend 15 minutes on Facebook looking at my friend's profile and that if her friend's to be able to join a lot of dots and appear convincing. She predicted holidays so accurately, upcoming births where my friend had been tagged at Baby Showers etc. My friend was utterly convinced when this woman claimed to know about a childhood scar that wasn't visible under her winter clothes. A big gash scar right the length of her shin on heaps of social media pics. My friend felt so reassured as she was vulnerable at the time but it absolutely boiled my piss seeing how taken in she was. I'd be totally ignoring anything this one has said to you and getting on with my day x

merrilysang · 08/04/2022 11:17

Oh I didn't see Derren on TV spotting charlatans. It was on stage a couple of times. He did a séance and 'readings' on one occasion, I don't know if he did the same on TV.

AryaStarkWolf · 08/04/2022 11:22

Oh OP ignore that! What a horrible thing for her to tell you

Horsesforcourses23 · 08/04/2022 11:36

No medium/psychic worth their salt would spout that shit. She's dreadful take no notice.

That - I once knew a lady who was a medium and repeatedly told me that they would not / could not tell you anything like that.

noirchatsdeux · 08/04/2022 11:39

Go ahead, wreck your relationship on the made up shit spouted by a charlatan, why not?

dafodilloll · 08/04/2022 12:57

I wouldn't worry OP. Even the best psychics don't get everything right.

I had a reading with one recently who is overall very good. She said I would get the promotion I wanted but I didn't.

I think it's best to use your own intuition.

CrowAndABut · 08/04/2022 15:39

It's a load of bollocks. Ignore.

yossell · 08/04/2022 15:43

Obviously, the psychic is the OW.

SoManyTshirts · 08/04/2022 16:19

Friend has being going to a well regarded local medium for years. He told her her husband was faithful and devoted, then after he walked out with another woman - latest of many - that she would meet someone else (with certain characteristics) within the year and move in together.

8 years on she’s never been in another relationship and still believes in clairvoyance.

iklboo · 08/04/2022 16:20

Complete woo moo poo

Littlepaws18 · 08/04/2022 18:26

You need to listen to fake psychic on bbc sounds. It's a true story of a man in 1970s America who swindled thousands of pounds out of people. It also explains the tricks of the trade psychics use. It's worth a listen

Emmelina · 08/04/2022 18:35

I really wouldn’t put much thought into what she told you.
I went with my sister to one many years ago. I should have had twins apparently!
And she told my sister that our mother died keeping a secret from us. I don’t think anyone’s mother truly shared everything with their children (adult or young) before death. My sister really hung on to that and is convinced to this day it was something big.

Escarpahell · 08/04/2022 18:41

@Valencebalance

I wouldn’t believe the psychic unless you had some other (actual) evidence of an affair.

As an aside, this would actually make a great book. Woman goes to psychic who tells her all this bad stuff including that her husband is having an affair. Turns out the psychic is having an affair with the husband and wants the wife to dump him so he’ll be with her. It’s a bit Jane fallon-y.

The fact it would make a good book just shows you how much attention you should pay to it!

Could also be the basis of a song...
RedRec · 08/04/2022 19:11

Fascinating that on this thread most people realise that mediums are lying charlatans and it is all bollocks.
Yet on the threads that appear here occasionally where someone is offering to do 'readings', everyone falls over themselves to swallow the woo bullshit.

MogtheMerciless · 08/04/2022 19:20

I went to see one once. Told me that I’d lost a child, a baby girl. At that time I’d never fallen pregnant. She didn’t know what to do when I said I hadn’t and changed the subject.
I also know of someone who does ‘psychic’ readings for the bereaved. They’re about as psychic as a sock and I wouldn’t trust them at all (can’t go into details as too revealing). They do it for the money.

I wouldn’t worry.

iklboo · 09/04/2022 11:19

A friend at work went to see a famous, now departed 'medium' twice in one week. They did exactly the schtick in both shows, practically word for word. She never went to another medium again.

merrilysang · 09/04/2022 12:17

@RedRec

Fascinating that on this thread most people realise that mediums are lying charlatans and it is all bollocks. Yet on the threads that appear here occasionally where someone is offering to do 'readings', everyone falls over themselves to swallow the woo bullshit.
I thought those threads were jokes 😮
Luredbyapomegranate · 09/04/2022 21:08

[quote FlissyPaps]@Luredbyapomegranate

Erm, I really wouldn’t do this 😂

Why not? I would!

Not in a demanding way but in a lighthearted “omg guess what the medium said”

OP is saying she’s paranoid. If she didn’t have any doubts about her DH she wouldn’t be paranoid over it.[/quote]
Because he’ll think she’s fecking batshit, with good reason.

If you think your husband is shagging around then do some snooping or ask some leading questions, but probably leave ‘well the clairvoyant said’ out of it in the interests of dignity / not having your cheating or non-cheating husband thinking you are a mad bint.