I have been married and divorced. I went back to university and worked really hard to build a career to be financially secure (I had alot of debt after I separated from my dcs dad). Bought a house last year after a very difficult few years and finally feeling secure financially. I'm a single parent so obviously money is still tight.
Met someone at work who lives with his mum due to separating from his dcs mum.
I knew he was struggling with debt when we first met. I could understand the difficulty as I had been there. We have been dating just over a year and he is still with his mum. He has secured his debt into one debt only to help him by financially. He often says, he will never be able to afford to move out of his mums as rent is so high. Or until he no longer has to pay maintenance. Its completely his business and I have continued to date him. However, recently I have started to think about the future. Would the next step be living together. If not then is there a future. I have a few niggles and question what relationships should look like if not living together.
He gambles, says its just 5 pound a month. He also smokes and enjoys a few drinks when watching football, which is probably every other week. He doesn't drive so I drive if we ever go anywhere (not that we do). Again, completely up to him how he chooses to spend his money and live his life. He mainly comes over, twice a week. I cook and he gets a taxi home. I then feel guilty for him to pay taxi fayres but I'm not comfortable with him staying over. Should I be a year on?
I haven't met his dcs yet as his ex does not want me to. I'm not sure she ever will.
He's a really kind person and would do anything for me if I asked him. He often tells me how lucky he is. I have dated in the past and I know how difficult it is to find someone genuinely kind.