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How can I get over someone when they're everywhere?

44 replies

CaraElle · 05/04/2022 20:47

I had a really intense relationship with a famous actor. I broke it off because it just got too much and I wasn't in a good headspace.

Every time I turn on the TV he's there. He's all over the social media/ interviews/ radio etc.

Has anyone been in this situation before? I just can't get him out of my mind and it's driving me crazy!

OP posts:
SufferingJet · 05/04/2022 20:49

Was he aware of the relationship? I only ask because Mads Mikkelsen has yet to notice ours.

coodawoodashooda · 05/04/2022 20:50

You need to not watch tele.

IWouldBeSuperb · 05/04/2022 20:54

@SufferingJet

Was he aware of the relationship? I only ask because Mads Mikkelsen has yet to notice ours.
Grin
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CaraElle · 05/04/2022 20:56

Haha 😂

It's not just TV though, he's everywhere. I can't just never turn in the TV/ social media/ radio again.

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HellonHeels · 05/04/2022 20:59

Is it Philip Schofield?

LittleWhingingWoman · 05/04/2022 21:02

Is it Edward from Twilight?

something2say · 05/04/2022 21:06

Time. Just time I'm afraid. And I would take breaks from social media and the news too, go a day without looking. It will allow it to settle. X

youvegottenminuteslynn · 05/04/2022 21:08

My ex's song about me was everywhere after we split up. About him cheating on me which added insult to injury, especially as it was a 'woe is me' tortured soul one 🙄

Just time. That all that really helped I think. And a sense of humour about it helped definitely as it's such a ridiculous situation to experience isn't it?! Something you'd never think would happen!

Sorry you're struggling at the moment Thanks

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CaraElle · 05/04/2022 21:12

Thanks for the last two replies. I'm sure you're right. It just feels like it's taking so much longer to get over because I can't just forget about him.

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Sofasogood1 · 05/04/2022 21:14

Recent break up op? It'll take a while

milderchilly · 05/04/2022 21:15

Try dailymail

IsThePopeCatholic · 05/04/2022 21:21

Is it Will Smith?

AddictedtoStarmix · 05/04/2022 21:25

Focus on self-care.
Fill the time you would watch tv developing your interests, hobbies, skills.
Find something new to absorb as a distraction.
Journal or write a list of all the negative things about him/the relationship as a reminder of why things didn't work out for you both.
Practice radical acceptance to manage your feelings and rid yourself of your emotional attachments to this man, so even if he does appear on your social media, tv etc it does not trigger you.
Remember, no ones 'star' shine brightly forever, it is unlikely he will remain a constant presence in the limelight.
As lots of people have said, time is the best healer.
Practice 60 days of true self-compassion and care and I promise you will feel in a better place.

marjayy · 05/04/2022 21:25

Give us a clue op. Snoop dog? Pedro Pascal?

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CaraElle · 05/04/2022 21:27

Thank you so much @AddictedtoStarmix

I really appreciate that.

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ToothGrinder · 05/04/2022 21:29

AddictedToStarmix's advice is great but you'll get over it loads quicker if you tell us his name.

Or even just his initials. 👀👀

WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia · 05/04/2022 21:33

Every time I turn on the TV he's there. He's all over the social media/ interviews/ radio etc

Is it Putin?

WoodyBrambles · 05/04/2022 21:36

Is it Dean Gaffney? He keeps ‘liking’ me on various dating apps 😂

ToothGrinder · 05/04/2022 21:37

That boy's not been the same since he lost Wellard.

LemonViolet · 05/04/2022 21:38

Something that helped me was writing a physical list of bad things about an ex, proper valid reasons why we broke up, and posting it on the wall where I saw it all the time, and it helped change the immediate associations I had when I thought about them, rather than pining after a rose-tinted fantasy, my instant association was relief I escaped the negative stuff.

Margaretmatcher · 05/04/2022 21:40

You broke it off so why are you stressing it's not liked he broke up with you. Did you break his heart will he be single for ever after you dumped him

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CaraElle · 05/04/2022 21:42

That's a good idea @LemonViolet thank you.

I'm definitely seeing things through rose tinted glasses. He was amazing in many ways, but it wasn't right for me long term and I know that. I've blocked him on everything. I just wish it had never happened now.

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MrsRobinsonsHandprints · 05/04/2022 21:45

@HellonHeels

Is it Philip Schofield?
That was my first thought. Some cracking replies Grin sorry op as this is your life but from an old woman, enjoy that you did and celebrate that you knew what is right for you. One day this will be a fun story, if you had stayed it would have morphed into a nightmare
Bearyhumcrack · 05/04/2022 21:46

OP, I was the same. My ex left me for someone who could contribute to his fame. He's now single, on the fringes, about to have a book released and be in a major TV series with a film pending. I see him in the papers routinely.

It's only time I'm afraid. And time passes more easily when I remember what a cunt he was to me when he was finishing our relationship.

Hang in there. It's a kick in the guts every time but it does get easier. And you get stronger.

HelloSpringIveMissedYou · 05/04/2022 21:48

I agree, it just takes time Thanks

There are lots of unhelpful but very funny replies, especially the Putin one Grin