Need tips to keep my going whilst working notice

[Bodgerbarbara]

In a bullying workplace please. I’m struggling a lot, it’s as if all the things that have happened are coming to a head in my own head, all the isolation tactics, the put downs, the work load that gets bigger only for me, people being told my private health business, I have a constant racing heart, no sleep, nightmares, now in counselling. I am not even myself anymore, I look haunted and exhausted and no one at work knows how bad it is so I am leaving. I can’t go off sick, I need to keep going, I need all of your strategies.

Thanks I’m advance.

Also ashamed to tell anyone in real life how bad it is so sorry for the whinging but I’m at the end of the rope literally nearly!!

How long have you got left?

A month

Why can't you go off sick?

How long do you have left to work?

Sorry reading that back feels embarrassing but I’m scared to tell anyone in real life how bad it is.

Sorry you are feeling so low, OP.

I can only advise keep reminding yourself that you have taken control of the situation, no-one else, and that the end is in sight.

Can I ask the circumstances of your personal health details being shared?

Please don't be embarrassed.

We spend a third of our day with colleagues. Half our waking day. That's an awful long time to have to feel the way that you do.

My line manager told people as ‘jokes’

Well I'd report that before you go. That is shameful.

Get a countdown app so you can watch the number of days coming down each time you're feeling rubbish. Hope you have a lovely replacement job lined up instead and your month passes quickly

Op you sound completely wiped out. If I were you I would seriously consider going on sick leave.

How long is your notice?

I think the last stretch is always the hardest, freedom feels so close yet so far. Tips that helped me was printing off a calendar for the last month and literally crossing the days off until freedom day.

Is there any part of your job that you can do aline and enjoy the task? Ie I hid away writing reports. They obviously had to be much more detailed than normal to aid handover... try to keep busy though, doing nothing is harder I find

As for the workload, on that calendar sheet write down what you can do. And do only that. Tell yourself that it is enough.

If you can, take some time before starting your new job. That way you can get your head down now with a break to look forwards to

Are you with a union?

Talking to someone IRL will really help you.

I literally did bare minimum and spoke my mind in my notice period. I didn't care a jot what people thought of me. If they start on you, tell them where to go. If they put extra work on you, just don't do it. They can't exactly sack you now.

If you can’t go off sick, I’d do what @Steelesauce said - do fuck all & plenty of it for the rest of your notice

I’d also phone ACAS reg bullying

Raise a grievance tomorrow.

Then go home sick.

Your working your notice now. Fuck them.

Sorry you are going through this it must be really hard.

Thanks everyone. sorry for lack of replies, in a bit of a state reading your replies as you all sound so kind and I feel so down on myself that it made me cry. Will be back.

Totally agree to go on sick. You owe them
Nothing.

If you are in a union ok is it too late to ask about constructive dismissal? I think that's where it becomes unetaneable to continue in your role?

Someone with more experience will hopefully be along soon.

But good luck for the next few weeks and just remember the end is in sight now.

A month? How many working days? Get yourself a reward chart, mark off each time you walk in of a morning, cross off each lunch break, cross off each time you walk out the door at the end of the day. Do you drive to work? Hide something lovely in your car for when you come out. Maybe a bar of chocolate or your favourite perfume? Something to look forward to every day.

Or you could do the sensible grievance and constructive dismissal thing. That sounds exhausting though, if you've not got the stomach for it then that's okay.

Why can't you go sick ? Why doesn't anyone else know ?

You poor pet.
How awful.
Can you not tell someone IRL.

Do you have any outstanding annual leave that you could use to shorten the notice period?

Why can't you go off sick? You sound like you need to. Honestly. Don't work your butt off for these people. You sound like you need to step away and if you tell your GP what you've said here they will sign you off. Do it. Your health is more important. I do get what you're saying about being embarrassed about telling people IRL, you shouldn't be but I've been there and it is hard. Big hugs x

@Bodgerbarbara maybe it would help you to chat here on this thread each day, after you finish work.

I'll be around most days.

You can do this.