Need tips to keep my going whilst working notice

[Bodgerbarbara]

In a bullying workplace please. I’m struggling a lot, it’s as if all the things that have happened are coming to a head in my own head, all the isolation tactics, the put downs, the work load that gets bigger only for me, people being told my private health business, I have a constant racing heart, no sleep, nightmares, now in counselling. I am not even myself anymore, I look haunted and exhausted and no one at work knows how bad it is so I am leaving. I can’t go off sick, I need to keep going, I need all of your strategies.

Thanks I’m advance.

I just left a work place like this!! I was so thankful that they didn't let me work my notice and gave me the option on retracting my notice, or going. If I go, I had to go there and then, so I just left! Just a final tactic at bullying.

I really feel you. I'd go on sick for the duration of your notice. Places like this are not worth the time or hassle. I hope you feel better soon. I slept a full 10 hours the night I left, hadn't slept that long in ages.

Get signed off sick. But if you can’t, then just do the bare minimum. The bullies will hate that you’re escaping as they’ll have to find a new victim. They’ll probably step up the bullying, but just ignore them. It doesn’t matter now as you’ll be free of them soon. You’ve got this op.

You brought back memories there @Shurl

I managed to persuade my manager certain reports would best be done by me as outgoing. And that the handover documents needed significant updates. (Not strictly true in either case)

I then put on my oversized headphones and spent a month buried in reports, always far too busy to do anything else….

Yes, they have stepped up the bullying. Why do they do this as you're going? I can't tell anyone as I feel ashamed I suppose. I feel like it's all something to do with me. I don't know how to explain it.

I will think of a way to explain more without being too outing. Thanks for all the nice comments and tips, helping already.

Another day done op. Another day closer to getting out of there.

Please raise a grievance of you feel able because no one should be bullied or feel like you do.

Just know it's a reflection on them not you.

I really hope karma gets these people that maybe in the future you have to interview one of them.

Fuckers.

Your moving on though and you are closer to that today than you were yesterday.

Please think about going sick if this is making you feel bad. Xx

Are you leaving for another job? , if not then just go off sick.
If you feel that you really can't then you need to muster that final bit of strength, cross off each working day on a calendar, and absolutely dont work your socks off. You owe them nothing 💐

Another day is done OP, well done you

I agree with others that this sounds like such a genuinely harmful environment that it's likely to make you ill if you try to stick out the month and I would openly discuss that with your GP to talk about options re being signed off with stress. You're not making this up, it's genuinely harming your mental health and is now worsening as they're ramping up.

Fucking bullies, what a waste of their lives to behave this way.

Just here for a virtual 'you can do this'

I'm so sorry. It sounds horrendous.

I would seriously consider going to your gp. Ask for sleeping pills and explain the situation. I had something similar with a racist woman hating boss (female senior manager who liked to flirt with her underlings... so women just annoyed her)

My gp just said he'd sign me off for a month. Gave me something to help me sleep when I hadn't slept for a week. I went swimming every day. It was bliss.

I know it doesn't feel like it but you're nearly there. You can do this

Get signed off op. Fuck them and their bullying culture.

Take the next three weeks for you.

I’d call in sick tomorrow OP. I believe that you can self-certify for 28 days now, which will take you into early May and presumably past your notice period. It sounds immensely stressful. Check the 28 day thing with ACAS but I think I’m right.

Hope you managed to get through today a little easier, OP.

I know you feel op. If you cannot go off sick is there any leave you can take to do shorter weeks?

If not do the absolute bare minimum. Do not engage with any of them. They are nothing to you and you will soon be gone.

I will never understand why people do this.

No job is worth sacrificing your mental health. Use up any holiday you have, if you have none, call in sick. I'd do this myself.

That was just during January. It's back to 7 days now.

Sorry that was for @GreenClock

Go off sick, go to your GP and tell them and get signed off OP, no job is worth this! NONE

I know I know.

Terrible today.

How to explain that when coworkers talk to me everything looks okay but to me - everything is on fire around me and I am talking through roaring flames. I’m sick of it all

Thanks for thinking of me via the replies, it’s made me feel less alone

Another day done though op tomorrow is nearly the end of the week xx

Maybe set your self little targets.

End of the week is surely a celebration in itself. Calls for wine/chocolates/cheeky takeaway. Whatever is more of a treat for you.

So it doesn't feel like a long slog. Break it down.

You're doing so well.

I would still consider the gp though. It sounds like it's taking a very real toll on your mental health. And no work is worth that

How are you today, OP?

Another day done OP

Well its Friday OP so thats a week done and dusted. Hope your ok

Just checking in, if you need a chat, OP.