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I don't know what to do...

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TeddyBearPicnic1 · 29/03/2022 22:10

Me and my partner have been together just over 5 years, own a house together and have a gorgeous DS who turned 1 a couple of weeks ago.

Tonight we've had a major argument as he's come back from work in a bad mood. All I did was ask what was wrong and he got really shitty and moody. I left him to it and didn't rise to his snide comments about how the kitchen was a mess (there was a plate left out from the meal I'd finished about 5 minutes to him getting back and the cat bowls were in the sink to be washed before I went up to bed). I asked him not to talk to me if he was going to be in a bad mood and he just started going off on one about how I'm really messy and lazy (I've been at work all day and didn't get home until 7ish and was up in the night as DS was crying and unsettled). He then started making horrible comments about how I'm obviously a rubbish Mum as DS prefers being with him and how he smiles every time my partner comes home and he just cries whenever he's with me, how I'm a horrible person and no wonder I don't have many friends where we live (I moved away from where I lived previously and had friends when we became a couple and have struggled to find new local friends due to lockdown and then having a newborn to deal with). I've got an interview tomorrow for a a different job where I'd be a much senior member of staff compared to what I am now and he's said it's not really a big deal and doesn't know why I'm bothering to even go as who knows if I'd be successful in getting the job.

I just feel so lonely and upset and don't really have anyone to turn to IRL. I'm close to my family but I know if I were to discuss this with them that they'd just say it was an argument and kind of brush it under the carpet.

OP posts:
gonnascreamsoon · 31/03/2022 07:00

Well done in going to the interview, and I'm hoping you're successful in getting the job.

Enjoy the time without your miserable, selfish, egotistical prick of a partner, but also use the free time to reflect on what YOU want.

Do you want to continue to do 95% of everything ?

Do you want to never get anything resolved ?

Do you want to model this behaviour to your DC ?

What would you advise your child to do in the same situation ?

Do you want to be subjected to his vile behaviour with zero 'consequences' for him or even an apology from him ?

Decide what YOU want, and then make plans to get it !

Whatever it takes for you to get the life and relationship YOU want, is what you NEED to do. ASAP.

Bobbins36 · 31/03/2022 07:10

He sounds horrible and petty. This won’t change - look no after yourself and your boy xx

XmasElf10 · 31/03/2022 07:37

Gosh he sounds like a little ray of sunshine!! I can’t imagine how you’d live without him….. not.

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