My husband behaves like a child!!!!

[Pbaby0401]

Ok, so I think I just need to rant as my husband has drove me mad today!

Essentially we’ve just got back from a holiday and dd2 has picked up a stomach bug. She’s only 11 months and has therefore been really whiny and clingy with it all day. I start back at work on Monday from my maternity leave and was booked in to get my hair done today (first time in 9 months! And my last appointment 3 weeks ago was cancelled due to dd1 being ill!)

Anyway, Dh has had the 2 girls for 4 hours and I get home and I am just asking questions about how much sleep she’s had, how much fluid, any milk etc etc. and he’s just gone mad about how hard it’s been, how I’ve chosen my hair over our family, how he’s not feeling well either and he’s had enough. To which I’ve said, it’s hard work isn’t it? And he’s gone nuts!!! Slamming doors, shouting at me to shut up etc etc. it’s like having a teenager in the house when all I need is for him to act like a father while his child is poorly. He always manages to turn it round to a ‘what about me???’ attitude and I just feel like he needs to grow up!!!!

Am I expecting too much?? We’ve just found out that we’re expecting dc3 and I’m petrified that another child might tip him over the edge!!

Your daughters will grow up thinking it’s normal for men to shout and scream and shout abuse whenever they’re asked to do any sort of household chores or take responsibility.

This isn’t your fault but you do have the option to change the situation.

"He always manages to turn it round to a ‘what about me???’ attitude"

You have correctly identified the root of the problem.

Good god, how is he a father? Sperm doner maybe?

No ones ‘nasty’, did you expect ‘aww hun, men eh, lol’ type replies? We hope you’ll raise your standards, you’re being treated like shite and setting a bad example of misogyny to all these kids.

Slamming and banging about because he had to look after his children for a couple of hours?

He sounds abusive.
He definitely is an asshole and a waster.

Get a termination asap.

Be glad you at least have a job to return to.

Your poor children.

This is not a good man.

You owe it to your children to protect them from this nasty waster.

Start by not adding another child to this shit show.

You all deserve better.

Wow, I can you ending up a single mum one day, why get pregnant with an incompetent arsehole again ?

@UpToMyElbowsInDiapers

I’m a bit surprised at other people’s responses. Your DH obviously massively over-reacted and should never be slamming doors, but I do think he’s within his rights to feel grumpy. We have 3 DCs under 5 and it’s hard work. We never leave the other parent for long chunks on weekends with all three kids (or with both, when we just had 2 under 3). I find my patience maxes out after about 3 hours on my own (which is why I’d be a crummy SAHM!). If my partner left me for 4 hours with two kids on a weekend, one of whom was vomiting, to get his hair done… my blood would be absolutely boiling.

I kind of see why you went, if it was your last chance before starting work on Monday, but I also totally understand your DH’s frustration. Ultimately I think you’re both right and you’re both wrong, and what’s actually shitty in this situation is having a sick baby!

I hope everyone is well soon.

Wtaf plenty of single parents do this shit daily, get a bloody grip!!

Why do some men treat women like shit?

Because we let them. Seriously. Because we keep on having children with someone who likely already showed you he was utterly incapable of behaving like a husband or father.

Things won't ever change, unless we change them. Seriously OP what were you thinking about having unprotected sex with a man who already treats you like shit?

Not victim blaming here but all this could have been avoided if you'd divorced him years ago.

Hmm yes I think another child in this situation will definitely tip him over the edge when he can't even deal with the two you have....

If you are still reading OP you started a thread because you know this isn’t acceptable behaviour.

On these threads it can feel like everyone is attacking you but 99% of the time posters have good intentions.

@Pbaby0401

Ok, so I think I just need to rant as my husband has drove me mad today!

Essentially we’ve just got back from a holiday and dd2 has picked up a stomach bug. She’s only 11 months and has therefore been really whiny and clingy with it all day. I start back at work on Monday from my maternity leave and was booked in to get my hair done today (first time in 9 months! And my last appointment 3 weeks ago was cancelled due to dd1 being ill!)

Anyway, Dh has had the 2 girls for 4 hours and I get home and I am just asking questions about how much sleep she’s had, how much fluid, any milk etc etc. and he’s just gone mad about how hard it’s been, how I’ve chosen my hair over our family, how he’s not feeling well either and he’s had enough. To which I’ve said, it’s hard work isn’t it? And he’s gone nuts!!! Slamming doors, shouting at me to shut up etc etc. it’s like having a teenager in the house when all I need is for him to act like a father while his child is poorly. He always manages to turn it round to a ‘what about me???’ attitude and I just feel like he needs to grow up!!!!

Am I expecting too much?? We’ve just found out that we’re expecting dc3 and I’m petrified that another child might tip him over the edge!!

Sorry you’re just returning from maternity leave and you’re pregnant again? Why????????

Being tactful here but he’s being a ducking tit

How is he now with another child did they improve or is he still a childish dick

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