Did you marry and have a child/children with your first ever partner?

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If so, did it work out?

If it did, did you ever have doubts?

Would be interested to hear anyone's stories, good or bad!

I did- together at 18, married at 30, first child at 33. Very happy (although kids test us!)

Met when I was 16. Married when I was 21. Child when I was 27. He left me when I was 35. I'm 53 now.

My sister did. He left her for someone else after 20 years. My parents did. He had an affair and an OW for many years. I haven't but can't say I'm hugely happier! No fairytales here.

DH had a girlfriend before me but it wasn’t serious - I knew them at the time. We got together a year or so later, I’d not had a boyfriend before. 20 years and three children later, still here, still happy.

@Fridafever

Yes. Met DH when I was 18, gone married at 29 and had DS at 35.

Mixed feelings if I’m honest. Mostly good life and DS is worth everything to me. I do wonder how life would be different though.

Almost exactly the same as me, apart from first child at 30 (I'm 33 now). I'm very much the same - I think I've always had little doubts about us but they seem to have come to the surface. I think having a child has changed me a lot! It's a tricky one because the idea of leaving something that's all you've ever known is terrifying, but not feeling like I'm being fully true to myself is also terrifying!

Yes.

Met DH when I was 23 (and he 21), though we'd known each other as friends online for years. He was my first boyfriend.

We've now been married for nearly 14 years, and have 3 children. More loved up than ever.

@GeneLovesJezebel

Yes. Only ever slept with him, and do wonder what it would be like with someone else.

Well I've slept with lots of men and it's mostly disappointing. Long term you can guide them, but some have very dubious ideas about what women want and a lot only care about what satisfies them.

I think honestly the idea and the excitement of someone is much better than actually getting them. Fantasy all the way.

Yes.

Met at me 18, him 22.
First house bought at 21.
Married 26.
DS at 29.

I'm now nearly 36 and 18 years together this year and married for 10. Dh is 40 this year.

First person I had sex with - no.
First person I was in a relationship with - yes.

It's been 2 children and 24 years now (exactly half my life) and I don't regret it.

No but I should have.

No. Had 4 long-term relationships (with one proposal) beforehand. I had just about enough maturity to know that I didn’t have the maturity for lifetime commitment.
I married the right man. We have been together for 25 years and we will be together forever but I think if I had met him a couple of years earlier that I would have blown it. I would have played silly mind games with him and he would have walked.

Pretty much. We got together when we were 16 & 17. 22 years and 2 kids later and we are still going. I'd had boyfriends before him but only typical teenage stuff.

Depends on what u mean by 1st partner. I had a boyfriend for like 6weeks when 16. I went on 3 dates with someone else. DH was 1st serious bf at 23. Married 2yrs later. Quite a few arguments in 1st 2 years, but still v much in love 10yrs later. Just had our 3rd child.

First proper adult relationship, first sexual relationship for both of us.

Met at 19, together at 20, married/moved in at 24, dc at 29, 31, 32. Kids now grown up and leaving home (they're 22, 20 and 18 now), been married 27 years and though there have been bumpy bits, happier than ever. We're actually travelling right now (on a ferry) to our holiday home without dc for a few days .... can't wait

Yep, 35 years later and we're still together. I had a bit of a "wobble" and split up right at the start for a few weeks as another guy appeared on the scene, but I soon went back to my first and we've been together ever since.

Yes. Together 11 years, married for going on 5 years and only just had our son 8 weeks ago. We met as teens and both each other's first kiss

Yes, got together at 18 at the start of uni. We’re 40 now and been married 12 years with 2 dc.

I’m met DH when I was 20. First long term relationship. He was 27 and divorced. No DCs.

We lived together for 7 years before we brought a house, then got married then had DD and DS. I’m 52 now. I love DH but feel like I was too young to settle down. I don’t beat myself up with regret but I do wonder what my life would have been like if If been older when we met. I’ve never lived alone and that’s my main regret. Still happy though and we laugh a lot together, still have great, long winding conversations. Plenty of our own interests but also lots in common.

I married my first boyfriend, had two kids and 15 years later I left. He was an alcoholic and I couldn't cope anymore.

Yes, I married my first proper boyfriend. We met at 17, married at 18, still together at 45. No regrets, he is the love of my life and still rocks my world IYKWIM

Got together when I was 20 and he was 22. My first serious relationship.
We now have two young children and I would say we are currently going through a bit of a rough patch. It's interesting reading this.

Yes, but we were child free for a long time. Been together 30 years this year.

Yes met at 16, baby at 20, married at 22 and baby 2 at 25. We got divorced at 30. I grew up and he still behaved like at 18 year old. Plus he didn’t want to work nor pull his weight around the house. I wish I had had more boyfriends before settling down.

Yes. We met when I was 16, we have 2 DDs. But he was emotionally abusive for over 20 years, I finally left at 38.

Married and had 2 children with my first boyfriend. We are now divorced, he has two more children with the OW and doesn't have a great deal to do with our two, which is how I like it.